"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What is a Don Juan for you?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Atom Smasher

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I would say that DJ-ism is a process. A DJ would be a man who has purposed himself to gain knowledge about himself, about social dynamics, about success in general, and finally about women. To that I personally add (and this may not be everybody's definition), the art of influence.
 

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Feeling good emotionally, mentally and physically.
Doing all that is necessary to acquire and retain the above.
 

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Boiled down, I'd say being a Don Juan is all about ladies orbiting you, not the other way around! Knowing when to pull away is an art I'm constantly learning. It's about reading people, and using your instincts. No woman should be worshiped!
 

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For me, it's about being the best person I can be. That can be defined by high confidence, good self-esteem, financially stable, independent, healthy (for the most part), and good at interacting with women. Being that man who's got everything going for him. Being that man who keeps pushing on even if he's covered in battle wounds. Being that man who always pulls through with a smile. Being the man that women fantasize about regardless of their age, appearance, and relationship status.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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In my eyes a DJ is someone who simply does not care about what others think of him. His head is always held high, even when people doubt him for the action he takes. A DJ must always take action over words, less talk and more do. He also has less cognitive dissonance, his inner thoughts match his actions on the outside, there is no conflict. He does not chase women, he focuses on himself and if one pretty little thang happens to cross paths with him, no hesitation needed to grab that number. Confidence is huge, probably overly used on this forum , but it works in getting women, doing well in school, and gives you the persona that you carry yourself well, as a DJ should.

thats a rough dialogue of what I think a DJ should be, however a DJ can do anything he wants, there are no restraints
 

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Quite simple in my view: Someone who lives life for themselves.

Not in a selfish way. But instead someone who takes RESPONSIBILITY for their own happiness and success, rather than placing this on society, women or friends and family etc.
 

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As the title says.

Also another question, can a dj be considered somebody that understands women?
A modern day Don Juan is a Man who is acutely conscious of SMV and is
continually striving to improve his SMV on a daily basis. He is Game aware
and strives to be a master at game.

Everything that goes into his SMV comes before women. That also means that his
SMV comes before game. For he knows that true happiness comes from internal
fullfillment. For he knows that strong SMV is the vehicle that carries game.

Improving SMV
Fitness and Health
Fashion
Work
Self development (read)
Social life
Social ability (talk to people........talk to ten strangers every day....30 seconds....atter 3-6months....think you'll have problems approaching women? think you'll care about rejection? How will women view you when you're someone who can talk with anyone anywhere? SOCIAL PROOF....hint: you can't develp that ability on POF or Tinder)
Male friends
Passion (martial art, musical instrument........
Mission in life (purpose)

Then...GAME.
Approach women, you charmer, you ;) For you are the Game, for you are the prize and women are simply collective sources of sex and entertainment to be enjoyed.

A Don Juan with his social ability is a charmer, but he also has the ability to be strategic and cunning when needed. For like Machiavelli, he is a prince among men, his life is his kingdom and the world is his playground. A prince keeps his own counsel and is above the opinions of others. A prince is confident in his own skin, but never arrogant, for he knows arrogance is an ego investment. A prince is gracious to the weak and to the ignorant for he knows everybody is where they are on their path right now doing the best they can with the ability they have.....that being said, he does not suffer fools gladly and will act swiftly and aggressively if the moment calls for it.

A Don Juan never accepts himself as a finished product and has a long term vision which guides his daily actions.

He does what needs to be done when it needs to be done regardless of what his emotions are telling him for he controls his emotions and he knows: successfull people are willing to do what unsuccessfull people are not willing to do.

"The wise man does at once what the fool does finally"
Niccolo Machiavelli
 
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