"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What if your annoying
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Delta
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but then realize that you're a step ahead of every other annoying lame person - you are self aware.
that is more than most.
THEN, IDENTIFY what it is about your personality that gives others that perception. this is a TASK. this is HOMEWORK. do you talk too much? do you interrupt people constantly? do you talk about things no one else is interested in?
the issue with being extroverted is that the material that you put out there must be finely honed. but you're ahead of the game in the sense that you're not afraid to be OUT THERE. good. keep that. now figure out what works and what doesn't.
life is all about FEEDBACK and PAYING ATTENTION. you can't just charge ahead no matter what you're getting back.
-put stuff out
-see what the response is
-modify if necessary
-put stuff out again
pay attention.
delta
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Now this is a good retort. Thoughtfull, positive and it has merit. Kudos brother.Delta said:
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Ask them. Just sit someone down and ask them seriously why they think that you're annoying. Tell them that you're trying to change for the better, and you need to know what you need to improve on. They'll probably be all for it. One less annoying person around, and maybe you'd even be a kool friend, if you really worked on it.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.