What if you could avoid a bad experience completely?

[Accension]

What if you could avoid a bad experience completely?

I dedicate this post to the broken hearted and scarred.

When I first started playing the game, I'd take any opportunity to score.
I'd try attract a girl with a boyfriend, enter a relationship simply because I wanted something and place my fingers in any pie no matter how hot.

You know what.
I made enemies, I wasted time and I got burnt.
What I saw as positive chances just amounted to negative experiences.

This post however, isn't about not trying.
I can't stress trying in the first place enough as not trying won't amount to anything good or bad.
But, but..
It's more about knowing when to try and when to stop.

Our theories...

• Persistence - Soldiering on when you actually have a chance.
• I'm the prize - I'm the one to chase.
• Not needy - By not doing something I'm not needy.
• Next - If she shows a red flag, drop her.
• Always Close - Make a move and succeed.

Contradict

• Persistence - You might have a chance to persist and close but because you nexted her.
• I'm the prize - You can't be the pursued and close her at the same time. A girl won't pursue you because it's a masculine role.
• Not needy - You can't be completely needless unless you don't want her at all.
• Next - You can't always next a girl and at the same time be persistent.
• Always Close - You can't make a move, not be needy and think you are the prize at the same time.

In other words our theories are just guidelines for people that have no clue but you come to a point where they just tangle with eachother and mess with your game.

They are also not literal meanings despite how glorious and exagerated the author presents them as.
So in presenting my basic habit, know that its meaning will change from the context of its application.

Knowing what you want also identifies what you don't want, thus avoiding it.

I see so many guys running around with really no idea what they want from a girl.
It's no surprise to me later when they come running to me thinking she's awesome and then the next a total bit(h.
Funnily enough I can see she's a total bit(h normally just from looking at her and I'm not some guru.

I'm just not in their elated state of "She's soo hot." and dating a shallow but hot girl then crying later when she does something shallow.

You don't want that.

• Identify what you want.
• Identify what you don't want.

Thus avoiding getting into the sports car and completely missing the violent shaking of the engine and killing yourself.

Effort and Strain of planting and the injuries along the way verses how tasty the crop is.

Very important in avoiding a bad experience completely.

• If you get more negatives from your time and effort than positives, she's probably not a keeper.
• If there's more unpleasantness than your ideal amount of pleasantness, she's probably not a keeper.
• If she has more of what you don't want than what you do, how did you get here? she should have been discarded before any effort was even made.

This is the key to stopping arguments, avoiding her getting other guys numbers, dealing with her tuning an X, stressing that she may have cheated on you, worrying if her interest is high or low, trying to keep her and just look at Don Juan Discussion for more things to add to this list.

The key is in assessing which locks to open.
Every time I see a post about a girl friend, a plate acting less than ideal, infact most threads here.
I think is the guy blind or just stupid.

In that if you just take some time to assess what you are dealing with before investing effort, you could avoid most problems by not holding a common girl to your expectations and complaining when she doesn't meet them.

 

[Accension]

If I could, I'd change this thread title to "What if you could avoid a bad experience before it even happened?".

Bump because this is valueable, not because I wrote it but because it's simple stuff like this I would have loved to had read before I had many preventable injuries.
Preventable.

 

[MushroomGod]

The "injuries make you stronger. ou should go into evverything head first and learn from your mistakes. If you never got burned you would have never learned what you have posted.

 

[nismo-4]

It's like a skater learning new tricks. If you don't ever fall, how the f**k will you know what getting up is like?

 

[Accension]

Nope it's about learning from someone else's mistakes so YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE THEM.

We learn socially, it's why you don't have to jump from a 10 story building to know you could get hurt.