"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what if the girl doesn't counter?

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guys i hung out with this chick, an entrepreneur, last to last sunday. i texted her today to see if she wanted to get a drink either tonight or thursday. it ends up she is working (at night) for the next two weeks. she didn't counter offer, so I'm assuming she's not interested. Here's the problem, I've had other women that have blown me off (the hotter ones) but I've been persistent and have gotten them...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Haha first reply!

Don't you have another girl to offer drinks? We usually don't have to worry about this "counter" thing.
 
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Okay, try ask them this time, don't text!

Actually don't ask them, tell them to come.
 
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DJArlington said:
guys i hung out with this chick, an entrepreneur, last to last sunday. i texted her today to see if she wanted to get a drink either tonight or thursday. it ends up she is working (at night) for the next two weeks. she didn't counter offer, so I'm assuming she's not interested. Here's the problem, I've had other women that have blown me off (the hotter ones) but I've been persistent and have gotten them...
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Texting doesn't work for me unless her IL is very high. Best to use the phone. If you have good rapport then the phone will be a better way to gauge her level of interest.

Just try again in a couple of weeks..NOT two weeks but say 3 or so.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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