"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what if the girl doesn't counter?

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guys i hung out with this chick, an entrepreneur, last to last sunday. i texted her today to see if she wanted to get a drink either tonight or thursday. it ends up she is working (at night) for the next two weeks. she didn't counter offer, so I'm assuming she's not interested. Here's the problem, I've had other women that have blown me off (the hotter ones) but I've been persistent and have gotten them...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Haha first reply!

Don't you have another girl to offer drinks? We usually don't have to worry about this "counter" thing.
 
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Okay, try ask them this time, don't text!

Actually don't ask them, tell them to come.
 
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DJArlington said:
guys i hung out with this chick, an entrepreneur, last to last sunday. i texted her today to see if she wanted to get a drink either tonight or thursday. it ends up she is working (at night) for the next two weeks. she didn't counter offer, so I'm assuming she's not interested. Here's the problem, I've had other women that have blown me off (the hotter ones) but I've been persistent and have gotten them...
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Texting doesn't work for me unless her IL is very high. Best to use the phone. If you have good rapport then the phone will be a better way to gauge her level of interest.

Just try again in a couple of weeks..NOT two weeks but say 3 or so.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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