what if she says she just wants to be friends

[djjoe]

what if she says to me she just wants to be friends after i tell her how i feel about her...

as I see it I`ve got two possibilities:

(1) agree to it and then try to move yourself out of the LJBF-zone somehow
(this is what i found in the archives)


(2) (i thought about this myself, tell me if its bull**** or not)
can`t i just say no...???
i don`t want any friendship... i want a relationship and if you dont want any I don`t want any friendship... i won`t torture myself by having just friendly contact with somebody i want more of... i mean it`s something she probably has never heard because all of the other guys will probably say yes... and doesn`t it show her that you have got alot of self-respect, that you`re a man maybe???

so let me know what you think....

 

[Silquee Smoove]

You've got to be kidding me, Joe....

(Elementary school-voice) Check out the Don Juan Bible, remember guys, it might save your sanity.

 

[djjoe]

to be honest, i really thought of that...

so you think i have the one opportunity to say yes and then try to move out of the ljbf-zone

(of course i could also next her....)

thx alot,

 

[Ice Cold]

The girl I'm with right now has LJBFd me when I tried to kiss her.

I layed a guilt trap, almost with tears in my eyes (thank god for the academy )

"why are you treating me like this? All I ever did to you was like you! And you're pushing me away!"

And then acted all sad and heartbroken. It would've moved anyone who has some sympathy at all.

She apologized for 10 minutes and then kissed me Silly

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Anything is worth a shot Joe, in a frame of mind "what do you have to lose?"

The answer: nothing.

Go ahead and try.

 

[djjoe]

(thank god for the academy )

what kind of academy are you referring to???

 

[seasonedplayer]

I am in the exact same situation. I am not sure whether I should terminate contact or be friends with her.

The problem is she has a lot of male friends and I get jealous every time they ring her. I also can't help but tell my feelings about her to her face. I have noticed that the spark is going as she convinces herself that she was right in her decision to not be friends with me.

I am thinking it might be better to not contact her and then call out of he blue every now and then.

Any suggestions?

 

[b's nuts]

once you are in the LJBF land, its going to be an uphill battle the whole way. The reason they just want to be friends, is you don't make them feel that gut level attraction that makes them want to swallow your load. If any of you guys want to get laid, stop treating these girls like a friend and start treating them like a ho, cuz really thats what they want.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by djjoe
what kind of academy are you referring to???

The Oscars I guess.

It's a quote from fight club. When the skinny guy starts faking crying about his apartment burned down he thinks: "thank god for the academy"

 

[aBAzLLnA]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
The girl I'm with right now has LJBFd me when I tried to kiss her.

I layed a guilt trap, almost with tears in my eyes (thank god for the academy )

"why are you treating me like this? All I ever did to you was like you! And you're pushing me away!"

And then acted all sad and heartbroken. It would've moved anyone who has some sympathy at all.

She apologized for 10 minutes and then kissed me Silly

Dude, that's pretty sad...

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
Dude, that's pretty sad...

Care to elaborate?

 

[NoBull]

"why are you treating me like this? All I ever did to you was like you! And you're pushing me away!"

Seems AFC, but depends on how you said it, I guess.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

IceCold:

You wanted a kiss so bad that you decieved her... Personally, if she doesn't wanna give it, I'm done. Out. Peace.

If that's the way you roll, roll on. But to me, it seems desperate.

~ivan

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
You wanted a kiss so bad that you decieved her...

Obviously. I go after what I want.

Personally, if she doesn't wanna give it, I'm done. Out. Peace.

You're saying it like it's a good thing to give up. I knew what I want. I knew she would be happier with me than without me, so a little manipulation did the trick and benefited both of us. Doesn't mean I do it all the time.

Everything fair. Remember?

If that's the way you roll, roll on. But to me, it seems desperate.

I dunno. I my ego is strong enough to put myself on the line like that...

 

[aBAzLLnA]

You're saying it like it's a good thing to give up.

I don't condone giving up. But if she REALLY doesn't want to give something up, I say fuggit, move on. I don't see how spending so much energy will benefit.

I dunno. I my ego is strong enough to put myself on the line like that...

I don't think it has much to do with ego, but more to do with persistance. True, persistance is key, but one has to remain true to himself.

Anyway, to each man his own!

~ivan

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
I don't condone giving up. But if she REALLY doesn't want to give something up, I say fuggit, move on. I don't see how spending so much energy will benefit.

If she REALLY didn't want to kiss me, she'd just walk out of the room.

She was hesitating, I knew she wanted it but I was coming on a bit too fast and she just needed a little push in the right direction. And a 5 centence act is not "spending so much energy"

Peace man

 

[BRYCEicl]

IceCold

Ice Cold she kissed you because she felt sorry for you, not because she was attracted to you. I think you are a disgrace to us all. As a man I wont take shortcuts like you do. I can see that you got what you wanted the easy way (instead of making her attracted to you you manipulate her) but remember this: When you do things the hard way, you learn the most and you benefit the most, and that‘s why I feel I will be better than you. I'm going to do it the right way, which requires the most work and I’ll receive the most genuine improvement.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

Ice Cold she kissed you because she felt sorry for you, not because she was attracted to you. I think you are a disgrace to us all.

Ah, there was my main point. She kissed you because she felt sorry for you. I completely forgot to mention this, sorry.

However, saying he's a disgrace to us all...now that's a bit rash. Some take the shortcuts, some take the long road. Just different paths to the same thing. You honestly cannot say he did anything "wrong".

How is he a disgrace?

~ivan

 

[Ice Cold]

Re: IceCold

Originally posted by BRYCEicl Ice Cold she kissed you because she felt sorry for you, not because she was attracted to you.[/quiote]
Doesn't actually matter why she kissed me. She kissed me because she WANTED TO kiss me. Why and how isn't your problem.

I think you are a disgrace to us all. As a man I wont take shortcuts like you do. I can see that you got what you wanted the easy way

That wasn't the easy way. The easy way is the way you take when you next a girl who's a bit unsure of where to go. (aren't we all like that sometimes?)

(instead of making her attracted to you you manipulate her)

Ah. Guilty as charged.

But don't you think that "making her attracted to you" and "manipulate her" are the same things, just prased differently? You could call the same action as "making her fall in love with you", don't you think?

but remember this: When you do things the hard way, you learn the most and you benefit the most, and that‘s why I feel I will be better than you. I'm going to do it the right way, which requires the most work and I’ll receive the most genuine improvement. [/B]

I see. Is there a law or a book about this "right" way? Or it's just your own opinion or right and wrong which varies from person to person?

 

[DJ_Dork]

Who gives a crap, ignore the girl.