"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok...yes I've picked up chicks in a bookstore. Well maybe I told a "little lie" to get them hooked but it helped me open up the conversation and get their emails.

My line was "Hey a friend and I are writing a book on how to talk to women can I ask you a few questions"?

Three questions
What was the best pick up line you've ever heard?
What was the worst pick up line you've ever heard?
And what advice would you give to these guys?

Every woman answered my questions...and I asked ugly, fat, tall good looking whatever. It made it more believable that I was actually asking everyones opinion.

Then after they gave me some answers I would joke around with them and make fun of the guy who said the cheesy pick up lines. And they would ask what other women said, it was great. After I would say "Hey do you have an email, just in case I have any other questions"? And most of the time they would give it to me, I'd wait a couple days and send them an email saying. "Hey such and such thanks for helping me out the other day I got a lot of responses" Then if they responded back I would start working some email game until I got the phone number and set up a date with them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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rickyo

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Shyguy that's sort of not... what I want to do. If they are attracted to me, then I wouldn't have to use tricks. That's pretty low-down, man.
 

shyguy32

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Ricky...your not using tricks...your using openers. If they're not attracted to me they're not going to respond to my email or agree to meet up to hang out.
 

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blue11199 said:
Playing devil's advocate here:

What percent of the male population actually resorts to using this website or other dating resource? I bet 90% of my friends have no clue about this website or any other resource on how to pick up girls, yet nearly 100% of the population marries, and the population is still on the rise.

And, how often do you see pick up artists talking to random women in a bookstore? Wouldn't doing this jeopardize your image and reputation in your local community eg. college?

Here is the deal. Sites like this and other explained to me exactly what I was doing when I did it right and exactly what I was doing when I did it wrong. There would be times in my life where I was unstoppable, and other times where I couldn't get a date to save my life. I never knew how it worked, I only new that when I was happy I got women and when I got frustrated I got none. And when I didn't give a **** anymore I got women. Now I understand how my mindset and the way I act in each mindset sends certain vibes to women and which types of women respond to each mindset. When I don't give a ****, i get a lower class, when I'm happy I tend to get women on my same level and when I'm frustrated...nothing but users and abusers.
 

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blue11199 said:
And, how often do you see pick up artists talking to random women in a bookstore? Wouldn't doing this jeopardize your image and reputation in your local community eg. college?
Here's 2 perspectives on this: I met my current gf in a bookstore. Did she think I was weird? did she feel awkward? Nope! She thought I was a really funny, open guy who she would love to hang out with. I even told her the reason I was in her country at the time was to pick up girls! But I said it in such a way that it came out as a funny comment, and she took it as a joke. The AFC backstabber/fake friend who was there with me immediately tried to distance himself from my comment (I had told her that both me and him were just chasing girls around all day) in order to get on her "good side." He even wrote her an email soon after, warning her against my predatory ways and offering his friendship to her. She just though he was a weirdo...

When aggressive day game goes bad: my buddy was hitting on college girls really hard here at our school (we are both grad students). he is very good at pick up, probably better than me in many instances, but he can also come off as a little bit too aggressive sometimes. Long story short, one of the girls contacted campus security (even though she never asked him to leave her alone or anything like that) and now he s banned from campus. This is a bit of an extreme example, though, because it involves a closed private community full of spoiled bytches; the risk of this happening "in the real world" are minimal.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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