What I have learned

[handle]

I don't think I'll ever be a player or a ladies man, much less a DJ. It's just not what I aspire to be. I will never be a speed seducer, I will never examine women and see them as HB8. What I have taken with me from this site though is the "just do it" mentality. I went camping this past week and right before we left there was this huge group of tough looking boys heading out for a canoeing camp. I thought of talking to one of them, because I on-and-off try to make myself more outgoing. Nervousness started to overtake me - what if I look stupid? why would one of them talk to me? But I just did it, talked to one of them about where they were going, how long etc.
Also, during my camping trip we had long paddles in the canoe and my body felt like it would collapse. I remembered to "just do it" and I realized how much I can do not only in terms of talking to people (big for me because I am really really shy), but also how much my body really is capable of if I just press on.

I'm not sure where this is going as I write it, but even though I don't have any particular desire to be a full fledged DJ, what I have learned is to just do things, and to not give a **** about what other people think, but that's another story.

 

[nishbuk]

At least from what I think, a DJ is not necessarily a playa. This site as extensive information on how to be a DJ in a long-term relationship. In the short term, of course the site preaches to "be a playa", simply because you want to choose whatever girl is the BEST out of the ones you are dating for your LTR. That's not being some pimp, it's giving your self the best possible chance to end up with an awesome chick who really, truly loves you.
Have you read the entire bible? What about Pook's and antidump's stuff?

I don't think that being DJ means you are a playa. It just means that you are a BETTER man.

 

[everywomanshero]

A few basic truths

You're 100% correct about the just do-it attitude. You can have a great life full of cool stories or a boring one void of them when you hit the deathbed. The choice is yours alone.

A few truths I believe. Women always have certain advantages: They will likely get kids and child support in a family breakup, they will be more likely to have state paid medical care, they will be the ones who try to get those fat tax returns even if you buy the kids supplies, and it will always be easier for women to find men than vice versa.

Let me tell you how to neutralize these advantages. Never, ever, never have sex without a condom. Never, ever, never decide you'll have kids with someone to get her to stay. She won't, and you'll be broke for life regardless of whether she stays or leaves. Women are at the mercy of who ever asks them out. As a man, you have the option of NEVER asking out an ugly chick. Please exercise this option!

As you can see, I'm not a DJ nor do I wish to be one. I'm an aspiring PUA. Once you get past the first 6 months, the relationship is either annoying or a fight to keep anyway. Better just to move on, unless you really find someone extra ordinarly suited for you.

Women only have power when you put them in a position to have power over you. You can avoid this by refusing the father children with her (the main tool women have to screw men with is government sponsored prostitution taxes for subsidized welfare, (alimony child support etc). They can also gain power by a man having a poorly formed social network thus becoming desperate. It is absolutely critical that no woman be your only source for whatever you need from women be it sex, love, attention, whatever. YOU absolutely must have several fires going at once.

Obviously, many will disagree with what I've said here. This is what has worked for me. If I could do it all over again, I'd take this advice and run with it. "Just Doit" is a way of life.