"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What has 'ignoring' done for you?

ecvegas

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Can anyone share details of a girl that lost interest in you or put you in the friendszone, but you started ignoring her and totally turned the situation around where she started coming on to you?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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brenbaus

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yes, infact I have been in the friend zone for a year, and tonight she tells me that she want to kiss me. Just use your DJ skills and figure out what works for that one particular chick
 

JonJack

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What's with the sudden general interest in 'turning things around' on a girl that has lost interest?

Here's the surprising thing that most guys who think about this do not realize. If a girl has lost interest in you and you next her, you are essentially ignoring her. She may start coming back to you or she may not. Her coming back is like a bonus. Therefore, you do not even think about it.

Stories of guys having girls come back to them after he ignored her are just stories. If they comfort you, then fine. But you've got to be able to seperate these stories from your personal situation. They are not one and the same and you seriously don't need other people telling you stories about things like this because it's general knowledge that girls can react in many different ways.
 

Jay-X

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i think that ignoring a girl is not the way to go at all. here are the possible situations:


1. YOU ARE UGLY. why should she lose her time over a ugly guy that maybe she's intrigued by, but ignores her?

2. YOU ARE AVERAGE-LOOKING. there are lots of guys, more handsome than you, that hit on her, why should she dump them for somebody uglier that ignores her?

3. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. she thinks you're just not interested and stuck-up
 

mrRuckus

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Originally posted by Jay-X


2. YOU ARE AVERAGE-LOOKING. there are lots of guys, more handsome than you, that hit on her, why should she dump them for somebody uglier that ignores her?

Young Jedi... girls are stupid. That's why.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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griffon65

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I dunno, never been in the friendzone witha girl. What I can tell you is that if a girl is already attracted to you, ignoring increases the attraction if done in moderation.
 

Cocky-Blond-Guy

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I'm fairly certain that with the proper mix of flirting + ignoring you can get just about any chick out there...

In fact, you can even carry that "ignoring" feature right into any relationship that you start.

I used to go into this chick's work like 2 times a week on business, and we would flirt it up all the time, and then some days I just wouldn't give her the time of day while I was there.

It would be great - she would be dying to talk/help me, but I would just stare ahead and go with someone else...

Eventually I asked her out - and she replied that she was really sorry, that she had a boyfriend...I just lauged at her and said sure...likely story.

Turns out that was her last day, and that she was crushed thinking that I would just take a pass. Apparently though, she knew someone at my work, and had this other chick give me her number. Well I never called her, and 2 weeks after I first asked her out she came into my work and playfully *****ed at me for not calling her.

So we setup a date - went out - hooked up...turns out that she broke up with her man like right after I asked her out.

I asked her what she thought about me whenever she saw me at her work, and she said she thought I was a player! Haha...well...I've since convinced her that's not the case. But apparently she doesn't buy it...I just talked to some people at my work and they said she doesn't believe me. Ah well...she's pretty sweet...I think I'll stick with her for a while at least.

Anyways - she said it drove her straight crazy when I wouldn't look at her or talk to her, and that she would look forward to seeing me every week - going out of her way to get me to notice her.

Well - thats my story - I ignored her, and it drove her wild. Now we're buck wild...and I swear...I'm no player. Haha...
 
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