"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What has finding the community done for you?

I'm Charming

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A simple question.

When you stumbled, inadvertently or otherwise into the seduction community, where were you at, and how did it change you?

I found the Book of Pook from a guitar website and it led me to here. At the time I was lapsing into the Matrix, I'm not a natural AFC - it is not in me to supplicate, but somehow I was becoming one, I don't know how, I don't know why, it's something that I would say now is against my instinct and demeanour, totally.

The community has helped me in that it has stopped me stepping off the edge of the cliff just in time, I haven't fallen into the pit of the AFC, nor will I - having seen sense, ever go near that path again.

How has it changed your life?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Warrior74

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Helped me get off drugs/drinking, changed my fashion sense, helped me to boost my self esteem, showed me how to look for my passion in life and learning to care for myself and to take care of myself. I found the community after my divorce and was a shattered man. Spent all my time drinking and smoking pot. It's been a hard road but I'm putting myself back together again.
 

ItsOnNow

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Well, I am struggling to find myself. The advice given is great. I am trying to apply it to my own life, trying to make up for lost time. Trying to improve myself. It hasn't been easy. I haven't figured out my own principles and where I stand. Sometimes I don't care. I am trying to take control.
 

ready123

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when I found this site back in 2000, the misinformation and blind adherence to prizing on this site totally fvcked me up for about 2 yrs by making me incongruent

then as I got more experience, I was slowly able to weed out all the advice that didn't work for me or was just plain wack and actually improve. in the end, I'm grateful for all the good info I came across because I feel like as a guy, reaching a balance with women is something you truly need to feel self-fulfilled in life. it's a part of your masculine polarity

and the lost time is why I'm quick to hate on KJ's who quote verbatim from the Bible but don't understand it. all they do is fvck up somebody else's game

there's no magic pill to internalizing this stuff. the only soluiton is to get outside your comfort zone every time you go out for a period of a few months to a few years
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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jafyk

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It brought me closer to my PC, lol.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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It started off when only girls I didn't care for liked me. And the girls I liked didn't like me. So, I went on google and typed in "how to get a girl to like you." Found some sites with some simple tips. But, didn't really help me that much. Then, I came across this site.

Long story short. This site has helped me alot in my life and how I view things. It also helped me get the girls I wanted. Now, not all of your answers will be here. But, once you get a general idea of how things work. You go out and apply it. Once you go out and apply you gain more experience of what works and what doesn't.
 

KontrollerX

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It has revealed the truth to me that I'd been searching for my entire life.

Its kind of funny.

Though I am an atheist the knowledge I gained here I'd say was liken to a religious experience.
 

jafyk

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Seriously, this site has helped me a lot and I wish I had found sosuave earlier in my life. My brother who's 10 yrs younger than me showed it to me. That's like one of the best thing he's ever done for me. True it's not enough to get info from the site but most importantly go out to the real world and practice. Anyway, the most important thing I've learned is that being nice doesn't work. I had some qualities like ****y and funny but it's amplified based on my mood. Sosuave taught me how this along with being confidence, not being predictable (still working on that part), reading body language etc works together in scoring a girl. Somebody correct me if I'm wrong but the consensus I also get from this site is that guys in a LTR have somehow been controlled by the female if not they wouldn't be in a committed relationship.
 

02hero

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I found this site just before Christmas of last year, when I did a search on google on "how to keep a women".
I agree with Kontroller when he likens it to a religious experience, I was reading stuff which altough at first did not compute with the way I had been brainwashed by society/the matrix (whatever), on how to deal with women, deep down in my gut I just knew this site was the truth. I could honestly never go back.
I realised that before I even knew what the terms AFC/Natural/DJ meant, I had been all three at times during my life and this site showed me how to enchance my DJ/Natural game and banish the AFC ****. I realised the success I did have with women before SS was when I was being Natural/DJ and when things went and turned to **** it was because of my AFC'ness.
Before I found SS I was already in the process of building up my inner game by reading Eckhart Tolle and through various other forms of self help, after suffering with depression from my late teens, right through my twenties.
After finally deciding that after a decade of medication, booze and drugs was not the wisest way to overcome it.
The teachings of Pook, Karma, Interceptor, VU and Kontroller, to name but a few. I will be forever grateful to this site for allowing me to find.
When I see young men posting on here for the first time, still in their teens or early twenties I think to myself damn I wish I had found this site at that age, then again if I did I could of turned out to be a monster ;)
Bottom line is cut through alot of the BS on here and this site could, and I have no doubt has, saved alot of mens lives, not to mention it is as funny as **** sometimes....

One more thing, when you finally find out that your own experiences of womens general craziness are common and shared by most other men, rather than end up hating them for it, I find it pretty damn amusing these days. Cheers SS
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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mtlwlu

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After I was destroyed by the girl I thought was "the one" (how silly of me) I did a lot of searching and reading on my own, I started working out at the gym harder than i ever did before and found books like "The secret" and "A new Earth" those books helped me with my everyday life, this website helped me with my nightlife, now Ive had some hits and misses since, but I seriously think that this site has helped me increase my game and I cant wait to amp it up even more when school goes back in the fall and new 1st year girls come to campus;)
 

Dink

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this site has made me think more logically and think things through prior to acting on it. I think before i speak now. Anyways, everything else i learned beyond that is just.... just in life experiences with woman to notice things or how to react. I've had some crazy opportunities i passed up(for good reason mind you). I've had some opportunities i ran with. in the long run I learned that one night stands doesn't fulfill my actual goals.
 

Huffman

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This site has - at first - drastically increased my success with women, and this in turn has gotten me thinking about what I REALLY want to do with my life.

Haven't got no answer yet, but I think it is a positive development.
 

gösta berling

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The revelation for me came when I read "The book of pook". There is so much
truth in those postings of his, that it was almost unbearable to read the whole thing. My initial plan was to write down a few key points from his "book"
and transfer it to my notebook. I wrote and wrote and wrote. It took me two weeks
before I was finished. I should have just printed it out.;)
 

Darles Chickens

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Darles Chickens was hatched in 1980

Confined to the chicken coop he was a regular AFC (average frustrated chicken)

1980 - 2006 The AFC years

2006 Suffered a major case of bird flu the strain was commonly known as ¨Oneitis¨

2006 - 2007 Salvation in the form of SS. Found using the popular search engine google the question i asked it was ¨why do women lie¨. Through the maze of phrases such as s**t test, flakey, neg hit and C&F i ended up on this forum. Read The Book of Pook - Darles Chickens was now free range but not quite organic.

2007-2008 Saw complete improvement with women even when i was being a total coq (excuse the pun). Negged and C&F almost every girl even my mum lol, but felt that something was missing.

2008 - Read into more self improvement posts and have cut out most of the stuff that took me away from my true self. It really has been a difficult but worthwhile experience and the closest thing i´ve had to a religious experience. It has been spiritually enlightening.

When i found the site it was at a time when i tried to figure out what i wanted from life. It helped me take the decision to go back to University and study some more and to live life more how i wanted to.

:up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Daddy The Pimp

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Man the community changed me . Im new person now .
Now i have other point of view .

I respect myself more than anyone else .

I love myself more than anyone else .

It boosted my confidence .

I changed my look .

I expanded my social circle . Now its 10 times bigger .

I get pvssy anytime i want :D .

Period

I thank everyone that helped me improve my game .

My happy parents
My natural friends
My DJ father
Mystery
Style
DeAngelo
Hypnotica
My girlfriends [ for boosting my confidence ]
Everyone who complimented my look
Amogs that made me work harder to reach that point where i just DONT GIVE A FVCK .
All sosuave.net members .

I love ya all
 
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