Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What happens when the no contact rule doesnt work
- Thread starter tebow1120
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Igetit!
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What happens when no contact doesn't work?tebow1120 said:
Well what was the purpose of you starting the no contact to begin with?
When you started it,what were hoping the outcome would be?
What were you trying to make your ex do?
Another thing....you're trying no contact on your ex? Why?
If she's an ex,that means you two have a prior history....and it was somewhat of a negative one if it led you two ending the relationship.
You left out too much information. All we know is that this girl is your ex.
We don't know why,what happened to cause the breakup,how long you two were together,who proposed the breakup,or what reason she (or you) gave for wanting to leave each other.
"No Contact" isn't a magic wand. It doesn't magically fix every romantic situation.
You haven't given enough info for us to determine if this is a situation where no contact would be effective or not.
So either you did the no contact incorrectly,or you applied it to a situation it was never meant to solve.
A "plan B'? Well....you could always move on.tebow1120 said:
Yeah, sometimes it "works" and she crawls back (most of the times only to find out why are you not crying anymore - to make you cry again).
And you should be disappointed at that moment - "What a hell that broad wants now?"
Forget games, man. Games are for chicks and homos.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
So, MY advice is, if NC doesnt work, use her for either a slump killer, or to get your mind off another girl.
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I agree with Sandow. I've been on a few dates with girls around campus this year. Once it's clear they're not really into it (they give excuses, become more unavailable, etc.), I never hear from them again. It's probably different for LTR's, but for dating at the casual stage, I have not seen a girl come begging for my attention.Sandow said:
As for the OP, just move on and find other girls. It's a win-win: you may find a girl that really likes you, and if the original girl still has feelings, she'll let you know it by repeatedly contacting you (unless she is an attention wh0re).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.