"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What happens after u get the girl?

BeyondBlue

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well guys, i've been in some relationships b4, nd while in 'em, i always wonder whats the difference.

ok so u would be flirtin nd talkin to the girl a lot, but u dont call her unless to make plans to hang out, that is b4 u two became 'official', nd after u became 'official', is there suppose to be a difference on things? like u still talk to her, but shoud u call her more often now that u two r bf/gfs? i really dont like this 'official' crap, but o wellz...

anyway, mainly, what is the difference between the flirtin/going after stage nd the together stage? it wasn't too hard to get a girl, but keepin her is what bugs me. currently, my girl doesnt go to my school nd so we dont see each other 'till the weekends. we dont regulary call one another and online we dont talk much either. we would make out and talk a lil when we actually do get together on the weekends, but thats it..

gah nd im runnin out of stuff to fluff to her bout, what do u guys generally talk to ur girls bout?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You don't need to think...

ANYTHING is your answer.

Anything that fits in your age category, except video games, sporting news (unless she loves sport), religion and politics...But you can try to talk about Religion and Politics... but don't talk like a talk show host or preacher or critic, just personal opinions about should the girl change religion if the boy tells her to do... somethin that will fit the age category...

Anything...
 

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gah.. i think my girl either pms too much or is frikin weird. she talks to her mom bout us nd her mom would give her suggestions, sometimes good sometimes bad. nd she could randomly get sad/pissed off. its gettin on my fukin nerves! if this continues, imma get another girl baby.

anyway, that was kinda off-topic. :D
 

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After you "get" the girl...Think "less talk, more fvck."

Not always, of course - a dude needs time to rest every now and then. :cool:

Like Blowfish said, you've got pretty much anything to talk about, so basically take your pick. The girl I'm currently with is really into music and art and such, fortunately so am I so theres usually a lot of easy stuff to bring up. If you guys share some stuff like that, bust it out.
 

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Originally posted by CableLight
After you "get" the girl...Think "less talk, more fvck."

basically now you can get action whenever you want without beign labbed perverted by others since you to are going out.

it still dosent mean much since i havent been in a relationship since a while but ive still gotten action....

let us know what you come up with
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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misunderstood??

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The obvious difference also is that if you become 'official' with her then you can't (or at least strongly recommended not to) get with other girls.
As for the conversation stuff, it should be pretty easy to have stuff to talk about, that is you do have enough time apart. You can always talk about what's new, something about the situation you are in, something on your mind, or just random topics like previously stated.
 

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After I get the girl I get bored and end things.
 
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