what happened???

[pete101]

hey.. had a 2nd date with this HB last night and she seemed to really be feeling me cos our date earlier in the week went well and she was sms-ing me and everything the next day.

fast forward to last night and it was going well but then i fell into her trap of her asking me random questions hypothetically about what alpha males do and why they want to sleep with lots of different women. somehow my answer got misconstrued and she assumed my answer to be what i was looking for only 1 thing..

she asked me to take her home (not in a good way) and before that on the way back to the car she was lecturing me about how shes in her late 20s and that she's done the sleeping around thing when she was younger and even though she said she said she didn't give a **** about it the next day she did and tried to get these guys and was only looking for a serious relationship now and that at my age i wasn't looking for that so it wouldn't work..

i got offended by this and started to justify my actions saying that how did she know i wasn't looking for something serious etc.. in the end we started to make out so i presumed i convinced her otherwise and that i wasn't after only one thing.

then i took her home and then we made out again then we arranged to meet tomorrow.

fast forward to this morning.. i receive a sms saying that she did not want to start a relationship and i should just accept that and to take care.

this had me so flabbergasted i did not know what to do that i paniced and tried calling her which she did not pick up.. then i sent a msg to her straight after saying that she was going too fast and that we'd only been out 2 times and that she was being a bit hastey and we should just meet up as prearranged. to which she didn't reply.

then an hour later i was getting itchy fingers and i know it's such an AFC move but i sent her some long ass msg inquiring about how she was just trynig to test me to see if i was genuinely interested or only after one thing and for me to explain that i was and how she was acting as if like she wanted to get married and that guys would run a mile if you talked about this stuff after 2 date.. i left it with her saying she wasn't being honest with me.

few hours past and still nothing.. so i tried calling her blocking the caller id to which answered but when she heard my voice she hung up on me! the b*tch.. i cant understand how someone can so dramatically change in the space of 8 hours it's like somebody was in her ear telling her that i was full of sh*t.. like she seemed so all over me the night before i really can't understand what happened. can anyone explain???

i know there is no other guy in the picture so that can't be it.. but it's so crazy how this woman has acted as she has.. i know she's not an attention Wh0re but im so baffled and shell shocked.

i left it with some really long ass msg saying that she was going to be missing out on something great and she'd regret it.. (tried using some so suave lines i heard on here to make it seem like she'd miss out on something) and that this was the last time i'd contact her and it was up to her.. but i think the problem is how long the msg was..

i think it's pretty much over now but i'd really like to know why. is there any chance i can salvage this or is it only 'next' as the option? i was thinking about saying something about being friends in a weeks time but i already said i wouldn't contact again so i need to be a man about it.. it just feels like something is there and its gone and i cant let i tgo..i just find it so shocking how she can be all over me and suddenly the next morning wants nothing to do with me at all. go figure..

 

[Interceptor]

geez, just about everything you should NOT do this guy when ahead and did it anyway.

i got offended by this and started to justify my actions s

Never be so defensive and and insecure that you let some female 'offend' you. It takes time. But you must develop a strong Personal Boundary, and always always 'consider the source".
"Justifying your actions" means you are seeking approval and permission.

Why are you seeking approval and permission to be who you are????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now, that is NOT AN EXCUSE to be an obsessive, stalker creepy guy!!!!

But if you offended someone, and you know it was wrong of you. APOLOGIZE.
If it was misunderstood, only restate your orginal statemnet, NOTHING MORE!!

this had me so flabbergasted i did not know what to do that i paniced and tried calling her which she did not pick up

Being flabbergasted means you are emotionally immature and not strong enough to handle circumstanmces and challenges that face you. You need to have strength and resolve and not let these things get inside you and throw off your emotional Center.

Now this part is correct action:

then i sent a msg to her straight after saying that she was going too fast and that we'd only been out 2 times and that she was being a bit hastey and we should just meet up as prearranged.

then an hour later i was getting itchy fingers and i know it's such an AFC move but i sent her some long ass msg inquiring about how she was just trynig to test me

You knerw it was wrong, but your desperation and neediness got the best of you. Again, you have no self disicpline or self control. You follow your emotions and neediness, you cannot see the bigger picture and how you should strive to act, and maintain your self respect and dignity.

few hours past and still nothing

Still waiting by the phone. You put your life on hold for a female you went on a date only 2 times. And you're saying SHE is 'going to fast"?? Dude, you are already obsessed with this chick. Get a grip and some perspective. You're the one who went off the deep end.
Your desperation got the best of you. You have nothing goinig on in your life so you waste time in self pity and self flagellation.She dominates your mind because you got so WOWED by the fact that (gasp!) you two 'made out". Now becasue you feel it is so wondrous (since you never make out with chicks) it is SPECIAL. And since it's special to you, it MUST be special to her, right?
You are in awe of having been with a female. You lack of female attention is evident. And the more you show how little female attention you get, the more they will notice and stay away from you.

so i tried calling her blocking the caller id to which answered but when she heard my voice she hung up on me

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Now you're being an Obsessive Stalker who give her the CREEPS. Way to go!!!!!!!

i left it with some really long ass msg saying that she was going to be missing out on something great and she'd regret it

Now you're being an incredibly obsessive, needy creep stalker who has to tell her how much she means to you and how much she hurt you.

i think it's pretty much over now but i'd really like to know why

At this rate, you will NEVER know why. She will try to avoid you as much as possible now.
You seem to be too needy, emotionally immature, lack female attention, inexperienced with women, and prone to obsessive behavios. Tell ME if you think she shouldltalk to you now?

One thing you must learn..
..........if you NEED to know "what happened?" you are still too concerned with NEEDING HER APPROVAL and VALIDATION of you.
You need women to validate you as a man, since you cannot validate your self.
Get over this. If you fvcked up, admit it and walk away. Your Ego and insecurity is driving you to these behaviors which oly make matters WORSE!!!!!Don't be a slave to your Ego.
Do NOT be a SLAVE to YOUR EGO.

and its gone and i cant let i tgo..

Because you're obsessive and compulsive. You lack the foundation of healthy self esteem, self validation, mature interpersonal interaction, social dynamics, mature sexual/intimate relations with women, lack focus and direction in your life, and have very little inner drive, and of course, not much of a mature masculine development process right now.

But this expereince was good for you.

It will teach just how you really are.

It will show you how not to act and react.

It will point you in the direction of finding out what to do next time, and never be so needy, clingy, desperate, immature, obsessive, compulsive, and with low self estyeem again.

 

[DJDamage]

Dude you are like Mikey from Swingers:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

When a girl doesn't want to see you, accept it and move on. Don't try to make sense of it all and don't try to reason with her or rationalise it, you will make yourself look and sound worse.

I suspect this girl has serious issues and you recieved the brunt of her problems. Some girls are just not meant to be dated and this girl is one of them.

 

[Interceptor]

I

suspect this girl has serious issues and you recieved the brunt of her problems. Some girls are just not meant to be dated and this girl is one of them.

Read that too.