"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What happened with this interaction? Insight please.

jafyk

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Hey Guys, I went to a shoe store the other looking for a pair of soccer shoes and had a situation that left me confused.
When I walked into the store I was greeted by clerk # 1 (Annie) and she asked me what I needed as I was talking to her about what I needed. clerk # 2 (Christina) makes who is spray cleaning the shelves and mirrors stands briefly to eaves drop on the my convo with Annie and she makes eye contact and smiles. So, since the store didn't have what I needed. I just proceeded to look around a lil there was Christina making eye contact again and smiling. I wasn't sure if she was just being nice. Till I saw her fluff her hair, lol. So, I figured she must be throwing out signs. Then she says "Do I know you from somewhere?" and I wasn't really sure cos she looked familiar as well. Then she asked me if I went to school and turns out we go to the same school. She concluded that's where she must have seen me. So, I playfully say to Annie is she with the government or something cos I feel like I'm being followed here or something. Christina laughs and takes it well. Annie then says Christina never forgets a face. Annie leaves us as she and I engage each other. Anyway, I asked her if she was on facebook, (I like to use this approach sometimes because if she's ok with it, then I feel I can proceed to ask for the #) Anyway, she tells me she's not on facebook and that she can barely keep up with her phone. So, I said to her does that mean you get lots of calls from people (guys) and she says yes. I ask her for # anyway and she says that her phone is currently off but that when she see me at school she will say hi. At that point I figured there was nothing more. I told her I'd do the same too if I saw her and I left. So, I'm wondering what happened with my interaction with her. Did I do something wrong? I spoke to a friend of mine about it. He said some girls don't like to give out their #s the first time and others like to leave things to chance (that is if we meet again then it was meant to be). Is my friend just explaining things away or is there anything concrete with his views on the situation? Thanks for your input.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dude, she was just bored from work and enjoyed the attention you're giving her.

If she doesn't give you her number, she's not interested -- she doesn't need you to call her.

However, don't let this event phase you a bit. Move forward, on to the next one.
 

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i dont beleive that she doesnt have facebook...its the ultimate "social persons" need to have a FB acount...
and women are generally a lot more social than men
 

jafyk

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Allurre said:
Dude, she was just bored from work and enjoyed the attention you're giving her.

If she doesn't give you her number, she's not interested -- she doesn't need you to call her.

However, don't let this event phase you a bit. Move forward, on to the next one.
I'm not phased out by it. My asking is more of doing a critique to find out if I read anything wrong or made any mistakes. I'm seeing 3 girls now but I'd like to get to a point where I can read the situations better. That's all. Thanks for your insight anyway. I'd appreciate more opinions if anyone has anything different they wanna add.
 
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