Well, long story short I have cancer and last month I had a very large 9 hour operation that had to take out most of the lymph nodes in my neck. The scar from the surgery isn't noticable AT FIRST only because the girls I approach don't know me and are looking at my face or in my eyes... But if I'm talking and look in an odd direction or move my head, the girl ALWAYS asks what happened to me because there is a giant 12 inch scar! It's not "ugly" by any means, but once you see it you can tell something serious happened.
I have no problems meeting girls, I have no problems talking to them, but when this situation comes up I sort of don't know what to say. At first I used to say that I'm sick and then I'd drop it... but they keep on trying to press that issue and when I tell them I have cancer they turn really soft and I just get upset because they weren't that dirty little hottie I initially was trying to hook up with. Like they want to sit down and talk about life, blah blah blah. Yea, it was great at first because I'd still get action from them, be it from sympathy or what, I'm not sure. But now it's really annoying and it really just sort of turns me off. Or they just get odded out that I'm out having a beer at the club with cancer, god forbid. So I started to tell other girls I was in a snowmobiling accident and it works great, but it's already bitten me in the ass a few times now and that's not fun either when they realize that I'm lying for whatever reason... IE- Run into a friend and they ask me how my operation was, room mates say something stupid, I go to the bathroom and the kids I go to the bar with say something to one of her friends... I mean, my friends are drunk... I don't expect them to keep my lie straight.
I'm just sort of at a loss. Anyone have any experience with this?
I have no problems meeting girls, I have no problems talking to them, but when this situation comes up I sort of don't know what to say. At first I used to say that I'm sick and then I'd drop it... but they keep on trying to press that issue and when I tell them I have cancer they turn really soft and I just get upset because they weren't that dirty little hottie I initially was trying to hook up with. Like they want to sit down and talk about life, blah blah blah. Yea, it was great at first because I'd still get action from them, be it from sympathy or what, I'm not sure. But now it's really annoying and it really just sort of turns me off. Or they just get odded out that I'm out having a beer at the club with cancer, god forbid. So I started to tell other girls I was in a snowmobiling accident and it works great, but it's already bitten me in the ass a few times now and that's not fun either when they realize that I'm lying for whatever reason... IE- Run into a friend and they ask me how my operation was, room mates say something stupid, I go to the bathroom and the kids I go to the bar with say something to one of her friends... I mean, my friends are drunk... I don't expect them to keep my lie straight.
I'm just sort of at a loss. Anyone have any experience with this?