You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
+1 AND repHalfAddict said:Alphas are a myth, think you are an alpha and you will become what you believe to be alpha.
Because honestly, the description of alphas I read on this site suggest you act like a large manchild because that's alpha bro.
Nobody is alpha period, you may as well get past that ****. You can walk around and "show your ass" all you want but in the end you are still a pale hairless monkey who eats and ****s too much. How about instead of worrying about "being alpha" you simply work to improve yourself and enjoy your life, all of that other stuff will fall into place as you improve your own situation.
Look at BigJimbo for example, running around the forum tooting his own horn about how he is the closest thing to an alpha male. Fact of the matter is, if you gotta run around a forum full of dudes proclaiming how alpha you are you probably are only alpha in your own head. Nothing wrong with that, just remember to come back to reality now and again.
Long story short, go raise your value and stop worrying about being an alpha male badass, because we are not gorillas beating our chests.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
excellent post and I think there is a lot of truth to it.TheAsianLoverReturns said:The real alphas are in prison doing life or dead.
Rule of law has existed for thousands of years, humans have been around for much longer than that.
Stop trying be alpha and be a real man.
Thanks man.Aaron B said:excellent post and I think there is a lot of truth to it.