What happened along the way ??? (experienced DJs only please)

[smooth_as_silk]

My story with this girl

- Meet her at a pub. Get the number easily. Go home
- Call her the day after. we go out for some pool. take her to my place, hot action, no fuking. she goes home, sends me an sms with a good night note
- I sms 3 days later (sunday) to set up some date. says she has dinner with her parents. Me : no counter offer ? She : how abt tuesday ? I say i can't, i won't be available for a week
so she proposes some dinner date when I am back
- I reply a week later through sms (friday nite) with 'good idea this dinner proposal'. how about monday nite ? she doesn't reply
- I give her a call on monday. She says she's back from work, she can't make it this very nite but proposes tuesday. I say tuesday is not possible for me (had to visit an apartment)
- sms her on thursday. no reply. i go to a club, on the dancefloor, she comes to me with a happy face (amazingly she was there with her friends that nite also)!!!!!! I tell her I ll be leaving for a long time, she says she has to go home. Me : Bye , she : bye (I erase her number...)

Do u think I lowered her IL somewhere on the way ?

 

[htemorp]

When they said to try to be "unavaliable" and "hard to get" does not mean "impossible."

 

[squirrels]

Were you really leaving for a long time? Or was that just your way of ejecting?

If the latter, I think you bailed too soon. Sounds like a genuine schedule conflict. I woulda just vanished for a couple days/week and then tried again.

But if she hasn't shown enough value for you to keep trying, then that's your perogative. You're free to leave any time you want.

 

[violator]

I think you are nexting to soon. After all, didn't she counter a couple of times? I still think she has interest. Sometimes, peoples schedules get in the way. And don't make yourself too unavailable, because after a while it gets old and the girl will just move on to greener pasteurs if you get my drift.

Wait a week and call to ask for a date for a specific time and see how it goes from there.

 

[xblitz44x]

You played games. She liked you to begin with and spotted you were playing games. Therefore she felt that SHE had to play games. Next thing you know, the connection that once was, is gone. And now you're left with two adults going back and forth at each other to see which one 'loses' by accepting the other's offer - like children. What's REALLY ashame is that this did NOTHING positive. All it did was surround the attraction that is there with frustration. Next time, be real. And just like this time, she will follow your lead - whatever it is.

-Blitz

 

[Starman]

You have planted the seed of being a challenge..now let the pot simmer...and take SOME initiative..call her and say you are going out Thursday night..and wont take NO for an answer.