What happen to my relationship ?

[benchod]

I met this girl 6 years ago, and we went out for two of those years. Than we split for 4 years. and Then we started talking when she called on my birthday and we decided that we should give another shot.

So she goes on and on about how its fun talking to me and she would call me all the time..

Now remember this is out of state, long distance, becuase I used to live in NJ and moved to AZ.

Well anyways, so I decided to visit NJ for three days to go see her. Well, before I went to see her see went to floriday for vacation for few days and than she comes back and has lost all the feelings for me . What the hell just happen ?

Next day, when she came back to town she wouldnt even call and I kept calling and asked her why dont you come see me she says, " I dont think we should do this ".

That day she comes to my hotel to see me, and we talked for a while. And then, we end up having sex...umm..

Than later that night we all went out, her and her sister and brother.

Well next day, I asked her to come see me before I go ... She says no, I dont know..

She feels we are moving to fast and feels scared... what the is the meaning of that ?

Any how , You think there is another guy in her life ? ?

Why would she throw way her feature , because I could of married her and she was a great girl.

It's weird. But, after I go home , I will never ever go back to see her in NJ... Plus I can do better after seen her so.

What do you guys think?

 

[Desdinova]

She might have another guy on the side. Hard to say. Nevertheless, she's flakey and you're best off to pursue other interests. You're only going to waste your time and energy if you continue to pursue her.

 

[benchod]

Why would

But why would she even call me all the way here, and she could of just said so if there is another guy.


Than after confirming all this, she says, she spoke to her ex..who cheated on her...

you believe this ****, she talk to her ex who cheated on her..

I think she might hook up with him and it screw me over...what u guys think ?


What a flake... I hate her so much know,, I would never talk to her again... I travel 3000 miles to here this ****.

 

[NewMan]

Lesson # 1. Son, you don't go running after women - ever.

You can sit there and wonder what happened all you want - but it will not change a thing.

put it in the back of your mind - and cut off contact.

she's an ex for a reason.

 

[benchod]

Yea

Yea I know it wont change anything, but It bothers me, is it all because of some guy or what the happen..

Because for last three weeks, she was fine and we were talking about long term, and lol...relationship and she moving down and all the and all that changed in few days.

 

[Desdinova]

But why would she even call me all the way here, and she could of just said so if there is another guy.

Because women don't want to hurt your feelings. So they'll treat you like garbage and send mixed signals with their words, all while they're fvcking some other guy.

Than after confirming all this, she says, she spoke to her ex..who cheated on her...

So there's your answer. Another guy in the picture. Ditch the b1tch.

One thing I'm going to clear up about LTRs: You can't just enter into a LTR. It has to develope over time. LTRs come after STRs. The L stands for LONG. You need to build trust in each other, and know each other's limits.

Also, there should never be any reason to spend large amounts of money or travel long distances to make a woman happy. Women are never 100% happy, so why go after a lost cause?

Go read the DJ bible. You'll learn much.

 

[In2theGame]

Originally posted by Desdinova
She might have another guy on the side. Hard to say. Nevertheless, she's flakey and you're best off to pursue other interests. You're only going to waste your time and energy if you continue to pursue her.

The guy above is on target. a Flakey girl... never take then seriously. You dont want to be strung along.

 

[tmpgstx]

True to form, not to mention she probably blew some guy in Florida on vacation ... so ..knowing you want her for a girlfriend when she was naughty in Florida just doesn't seem to add up right now.

 

[Colossus]

I made the mistake of travelling 1000 miles to see an ex gf a few years back.

It was one of the stupidest decisions Ive ever made with a girl.

NEVER, EVER travel to be with any girl, unless she is your fiance or wife. You'll always get hurt.