"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What gold nugget did you wish you'd known at 17

Joji

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Just as an add-on....

Both men and women gossip, a lot. We already discussed the importance of not leaking personal stuff about yourself. Also, if someone tells you something in confidence, keep it that way. Be that extremely rare person who keeps things quiet, and people will feel comfortable telling you all kinds of things.

More importantly, don't talk shyte about other people, not matter how much you dislike them. People will really respect you when you avoid speaking ill of others. Also be careful about people trying to BAIT you into talking shyte about others. This is a common (fictitious) scenario...

Gossiper: Mike32ct is a jerk, don't you think?

You: yeah kinda

Gossiper: <Tells everybody> I never said anything bad about Mike. I like him, but Joji told me that he's a jerk.

TDLR: When people try to bait you into leaking info about yourself, or leaking secrets or talking shyte about others, don't take the bait.

(I work in an office, so I learned how nasty gossipers can be.)
LMAO damn my boy has first hand experience. I'll take your word for it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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playa99

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I wish I'd have embraced life's changes and not kept people around who weren't worth it.

Sounds cliche but its true.

Find the balance between work & play & enjoy both!

The earlier you can start investing money & making it work for you the better. I see so many people my age (25.) who have absolutely zero assets, I was the same until 21 but have turned it around!

"Rejection is better than regret."
 

Joji

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I wish I'd have embraced life's changes and not kept people around who weren't worth it.

Sounds cliche but its true.

Find the balance between work & play & enjoy both!

The earlier you can start investing money & making it work for you the better. I see so many people my age (25.) who have absolutely zero assets, I was the same until 21 but have turned it around!

"Rejection is better than regret."
Teach me about that I'm trying to get that Dough
 

mrgoodstuff

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I hate to be bleak, but...

The things you think are going to change your life, won't.

The six-pack. Six figures in the bank. Mastering new hobbies.

You think you're going to break through, that there's some sort of paradigm shift on the other side of your goals. But there isn't.
The shift is your confidence. When your confidence is right you can say or do anything and they'll eat from your hand.
 

That_dude

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Take what everyone says with a grain of salt, don't trust anyone (especially women) except your direct family and absolute BEST friends, don't sweat the little things (e.g., fighting because someone calls you a name isn't worth it), don't be a follower/bandwagoner.

Great advice. You have these jealous little haterz all up in your biz.. The truth is.. Something is missing or isn't right in THEIR lives. These types of people like to project there misery and negativity onto others. Take it with a grain of salt and leave them to their own devices
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A 3% Percent Man

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Wow if I was to go back in the time machine.

I would tell my younger self to be happy and become what I want to attract

1. Be healthy both physical , mentality and spiritual

2. Know thee self and what you want in life and women

3. Learn about emotional intelligence and how to read people

4. Pick up several dating and self help books and practice on as many ladies as possible . I blew too many chances and booty calls not knowing what to do.

5. Observe some James Bond movies in how he communicate with the ladies and his GQ fashion sense.

5. Find a side hustle and work on it so I become my own boss. And not be a slave to a paycheck.

6. Start my journey in become a Don Juan with the ladies at a younger age.
 
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