"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What Girls Want the Most

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What do girls want the most? Easy. They want to brag to their friends about how great you are. They want to say "Remember that hot guy we met that night? He asked me out". Or maybe "Remember that fundraiser and the CEO of my company gave a speech for Hamsters for the Homeless? That guy asked me out".

So when you meet her friends, be sure to be at your best. Wear a tie if you have to. Say the right things (namely that they look nice). You only need to pull it off once. Just impress her friend(s) and get the hell out of there. Then, forever after, she can refer to you as (someone worth dating) and she will get the prerequisite bragging rights for spending time with you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't if this is what the want the MOST, but certainly, it is in a high enough level in their priorities. I remember my only serious relationship since being a DJ, a month in she asked me to meet her friends (they all shared an apartment in midtown) every time we were out. When I finally said yes I could tell how the "nice girls" were looking at me with precaution, and the "bad girls" were super excited and happy to meet me. The **** she probably told them about me...lol
 

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I agree that women will turn to their friends for their opinion or whatever. But, its not a deal breaker.. I've seen several women who are with some loser boyfriend that their friends and family dont approve of and yet they still continue to stay with him. Sure, dressing well and being groomed may make a good impression but, their not gonna give a sh!t after awhile.

I say what women really want is a MAN! A guy that has a job, his own car, can take care of his responsibilities, pay his bills. A Man that isnt insecure, desperate, needy and ect... Has hobbies, goals, dreams. You know a Don Juan!
 

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thats what you would think but then you constantly see attractive girls dating gross looking out of shape guys
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Fvck that sh!t. Don't impress anyone, just don't. Don't be at your best, be who you really are.

They don't want to brag to their friends like you want. They want a guy who actually gives a fvck without giving up who they are.

When you think about it, giving a fvck is the hardest fvcking thing in the world. Especially in the society of this forum.
 

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What women want the most is a man who they find attractive that also understands them, loves them for who they are, is a leader, and in control of himself. To the other poster, when you see a woman with an abusive deadbeat, it is because she couldn't meet a man that fits the description above, and the jerk is the second best, either that or the woman has some issues of her own (masochist, bipolar, etc.).
 

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In the end, women want Security. They want full uncompromising Commitment to HER. Over YEARS, she will wear the male down, and he will be chipped away, no longer a male. This happened to my papa (grandfather). She kept on, kept on, wanted to go on cruises in their retirement, wanted a new house (I believe that THAT concession to my grandmother, finally crushed not only HIS health, but hers as well, and they did not live long after that move; he should've held firm and stayed put). Women want Total control, in the end, so you start out with her Not having hardly any, or ANY control over you, the male, in the relationship. The years, even decades, long relationship with a woman is a ever-progressive blob of control creeping over the male. A man has to stave that off for as long as possible. If he can achieve not being swallowed by his death, then he has died with integrity.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The last little hooker I picked up off of POF left me for a HOMELESS GUY! This was last summer. She was homeless, too. He was a heroin addict, living in a drainage culvert.

This thread will be a laundry list of traits that guys think women want - that homeless dude probably didn't have very many of them.
 

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In the end, women want Security. They want full uncompromising Commitment to HER. Over YEARS, she will wear the male down, and he will be chipped away, no longer a male. This happened to my papa (grandfather). She kept on, kept on, wanted to go on cruises in their retirement, wanted a new house (I believe that THAT concession to my grandmother, finally crushed not only HIS health, but hers as well, and they did not live long after that move; he should've held firm and stayed put). Women want Total control, in the end, so you start out with her Not having hardly any, or ANY control over you, the male, in the relationship. The years, even decades, long relationship with a woman is a ever-progressive blob of control creeping over the male. A man has to stave that off for as long as possible. If he can achieve not being swallowed by his death, then he has died with integrity.

Your jaded post is hilarious and true.
 

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What do girls want the most? Easy. They want to brag to their friends about how great you are. They want to say "Remember that hot guy we met that night? He asked me out". Or maybe "Remember that fundraiser and the CEO of my company gave a speech for Hamsters for the Homeless? That guy asked me out".

So when you meet her friends, be sure to be at your best. Wear a tie if you have to. Say the right things (namely that they look nice). You only need to pull it off once. Just impress her friend(s) and get the hell out of there. Then, forever after, she can refer to you as (someone worth dating) and she will get the prerequisite bragging rights for spending time with you.
LOL HAMSTERS FOR THE HOMELESS.
 

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Real question is why the f*** you would care? Put out enough lines in the water and the random nature of woman will get you laid. Otherwise get on with what you're into. The wonderful and disgraceful life and times of @Bible_Belt is Testament that whatever you're into some woman will be into it too
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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most of what is said in this thread pertains to external validation, there is another more personal side that I focus on...


women most want to reveal how very sexually naughty their thoughts are
they feel BAD for these thoughts... dirty, undeserving and unworthy
they want a MAN to LEAD her into revealing these to him, and only HIM
they want to feel that this MAN can accept, and feel the NEED and WANT of HIM to be punished/handled/reprimanded for having this "naughty sickness"

most common opener for me often goes like this:

me: you are actually a very naughty girl are'nt you?
her: yes, I need to be punished for it
me: you will need to show me how bad you are, then I can punish you appropriately
her: your secure confidence is very masculine
 
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