"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What exactly is a "douchebag" or a "tool"?

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From what I have seen, these are just guys that ooze maybe a little "too much" confidence (if there was ever such a thing), they dress extra stylish/brand-name, and they pretty much have an azzhole mentality - at the same time, they have sex with mostly hot girls, and they usually end up getting the girls that they want.

I understand nerdy guys, geeks, goobers, and straight up chumps hating on these kinds of guys - it's called jealousy.

My question is - why can't these "men" (the nerds, ect ect), use some logic, and maybe LEARN from these "douchebags" instead of being so hateful towards guys who have the success with women that most other men desire to have?

Start getting along with your fellow man, and stop being such a jealous little chump who can only muster up bitterness, instead of seeing the situation in a logical manner.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blame it on the media
 

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chiyeung said:
blame it on the media

so in other words, people who aren't brainwashed by the media should never even use the terms "douchebag" and "tool", right?

(I agree with you by the way).

I just find it disheartening that so many guys on THIS forum use these terms so often against their fellow man, and don't realize that they are just pvssified chumps who are BRAINWASHED to hate certain men who have amazing success with the hot girls that they all dream of.
 

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I mean really, the next time you want to call some guy a douche, how bout you consider talking to him and finding out how he is able to pull the hottest 18 year old from the club.......less hate, more love, PLEASE
 

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Douchebag is a person who tries to compensate for his lack of confidence and his insecurities with a facade of what only appears to be an overly too-confident and self-centered man. Douchebags are fake and try to fake it till they make it - that is why they end up behaving in a ridiculous and sometimes dumb manner.

The a*shole/jerk is the real deal. That is why you see them call people who fall short in this manner - "douches". Also a smart a*s is quick to pick a douche from the crowd.

These people are usually successful with insecure and dumb women who are just as crazy as they are.

The female counterpart of the douche is the AW, and I personally detest both of these pretentious types.




The 'tool' is an aspiring douche or a wanna-be-cool person who is being used by other without realizing it.




Edit: I also have to add that if one is ever called any of the both, they have failed miserably to be Mr. Sosuave at the first place.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your intention should be to be so BIG that you would never desire to slander your fellow man.

The kind of man you want to be, wouldn't need to.

When we are weak and out of control, we focus on the faults of others. And we are delusional to believe it is our place to do so; our judgments of others are often as flawed as the judgments we make in our own lives. As He said, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

So let's resolve to give the other guy the benefit of the doubt, and that we are happier and better people when we focus on eliminating our own weaknesses instead of slandering others.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
As He said, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
And the rest will quickly f*ck it up with second and third stones. That makes one hell of a crooked building.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
Your intention should be to be so BIG that you would never desire to slander your fellow man.

The kind of man you want to be, wouldn't need to.

When we are weak and out of control, we focus on the faults of others. And we are delusional to believe it is our place to do so; our judgments of others are often as flawed as the judgments we make in our own lives. As He said, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

So let's resolve to give the other guy the benefit of the doubt, and that we are happier and better people when we focus on eliminating our own weaknesses instead of slandering others.
^ ^ ^ This.

Real men don't go around calling other men names or putting them down because they are with the hot women.

REAL MEN GO AND GET THE HOT WOMEN THEMSELVES
 

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The Assistant said:
so in other words, people who aren't brainwashed by the media should never even use the terms "douchebag" and "tool", right?

(I agree with you by the way).

I just find it disheartening that so many guys on THIS forum use these terms so often against their fellow man, and don't realize that they are just pvssified chumps who are BRAINWASHED to hate certain men who have amazing success with the hot girls that they all dream of.
no blame it on the media that such guys exist. we are always told since we were young from shows to not be a jerk, not to be a douche, but instead play nice and be the nice guy cause the nice guy gets the girl in the end.
aka after 30 other guys and she wants to settle down.

guys want to be "no i wont be a jerk, ill treat her with respect"
**** that she wants you to hit on her, some some balls and **** her good
 

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It's not the media, it's simply people who can not look at things critically due to a lack of experience, also liberal crap, and political correctness. After 1 year of dating (In the Western countries) no nice guys are left. Only douches, tools and a-holes are left, the rest just go for guys . ha ha
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have a friend like this, he's built wears all that Ed Hardy stuff and similar clubbing brands, gels his hair and sometimes wears sunglasses. He gets women all the time, and the funny thing is he's one of the smartest and most philosophical people I know. We are in a society where we can judge a person based on the hour or two they are in clubs. Its kind of funny.
 

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The Assistant said:
these are just guys that ooze maybe a little "too much" confidence (if there was ever such a thing)
There is definitely such a thing as too much confidence, if that confidence is not based on substance and character. If one's motives are pure, like the Dalai Lama, then there is probably no such thing as too much self confidence.

Delusional self-confidence (arrogance) interferes with honest self-assessment. Suppose you are working with someone and everyone knows they are doing something wrong except for them, but when you tell them, they deny it due to arrogance. Problem? Yes.

Another potential problem with delusional self-confidence is that it will often lead to having less concern for others. It's funny that you mention brainwashing and the media, because the whole spirit of your post exemplifies the EXACT narcissistic mentality that is so prevalent on these boards and among today's college age population. It's as if you had never bothered to critically examine the values that happen to be exalted by the society you are immersed in. The main flaw in this type of ideology is that it only considers the individual. Often what is best for the individual is not best for the collective of all individuals in society. The highest philosophy would be the one that creates the highest level of happiness for all members of a given society--including those who are less fortunate--not just the particular individual who practices that philosophy.
 

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omkara said:
There is definitely such a thing as too much confidence, if that confidence is not based on substance and character. If one's motives are pure, like the Dalai Lama, then there is probably no such thing as too much self confidence.

Delusional self-confidence (arrogance) interferes with honest self-assessment. Suppose you are working with someone and everyone knows they are doing something wrong except for them, but when you tell them, they deny it due to arrogance. Problem? Yes.

Another potential problem with delusional self-confidence is that it will often lead to having less concern for others. It's funny that you mention brainwashing and the media, because the whole spirit of your post exemplifies the EXACT narcissistic mentality that is so prevalent on these boards and among today's college age population. It's as if you had never bothered to critically examine the values that happen to be exalted by the society you are immersed in. The main flaw in this type of ideology is that it only considers the individual. Often what is best for the individual is not best for the collective of all individuals in society. The highest philosophy would be the one that creates the highest level of happiness for all members of a given society--including those who are less fortunate--not just the particular individual who practices that philosophy.
spoken like a true communist
 

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ArcBound said:
I have a friend like this, he's built wears all that Ed Hardy stuff and similar clubbing brands, gels his hair and sometimes wears sunglasses. He gets women all the time, and the funny thing is he's one of the smartest and most philosophical people I know. We are in a society where we can judge a person based on the hour or two they are in clubs. Its kind of funny.

The clothes and hair alone dont make someone a douche.
 

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The clothes and hair alone dont make someone a douche.

change douche to slut and you get NAWALT! (not all women are like that!) lol.


Like dave chapelle said, if you're wearing a *hores uniform, don't mad when you get treated like a hore. Same thing with looking ala douche. He may be a great guy, but you gotta expect what you get. If I dressed like a thug, I get treated like a thug. If I wear a suit and tie I don't expect to be treated the same. Every "look" or style comes with baggage... you just gotta be man enough to put it on your back and keep walking.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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^^^^^ that one seriously cracked me up.
 

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I don't know about anyone else here, but i consider the douchebag to be someone that just tries way too hard and fails obviously. This failure is visible to everybody except himself. Example: Jamie Kennedy in Malibu's Most Wanted
 

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All you have to do is google 'douchebag' images, and you will get the results. End of discussion.
 

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horaholic said:
All you have to do is google 'douchebag' images, and you will get the results. End of discussion.
Or look in the mirror.
 
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