What exactly do girls mean by confidence?

[BlahBBlah]

I know what confidence in general is. I always wonder what girls truly mean when they say they are looking for a confident man. I would say I am confident in most areas of my life in the sense that I know what I want and am able to get it. This goes for school and my career at least. I am also comfortable with the body I have which I feel is attractive.

What is the exact thing they are looking for though? Assurance in my beliefs? Assurance in my own abilities? Assurance that I am attractive? A combination of one or more of these? What do you think?

 

[Credos]

- a man who the confidence (also known as balls, which is something manly, so confidence can also be translated to manly in a way) to walk up to them
- a man who the confidence to tell them stuff that sucks about them, cause most guys are just affraid of that, if she knows its true, she'll concider you having confidence because you dare to share your opinion, not fearing what should could think about it

etc...

 

[BlahBBlah]

So then on that note, I would be considered a confident person. I always tell women my honest opinion about them. But what about appearing confident? Women seem to sense when a man is truly confident in himself and I guess they could tell by his appearance, posture, etc. It seems to me that some woman have different perceptions of a really confident man in their mind just like how some of us men have different perceptions of a beautiful woman.

 

[rakishness]

Women use the term confidence to reject men they never really valued in the first place. "He just wasn't confident enoough"....lol. And dating gurus use this term to scam people who think that by listening to their ridiculous theories(and ofcourse buying their books)...one can attain this thing called confidence. Since attraction is about appearing valuable in the eyes of the women.....it doesn't really matter what confidence means.

Read my posts about how confidence doesn't attract. Have Fun.

 

[Cenotaph]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTGbJFeW0iQ

Style has a great response to this question:

 

[rakishness]

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is EXACTLY what I'm talking about. This is the biggest load of crap you will very hear. These "Gurus" should be IGNORED. They are scam artists. I would love to bring one of these losers to my old college and bring them to the main bar there. THESE FOOLS WOULD GET ABSOLUTELY LAUGHED AT. The girls there don't give a rats a$$ about your "inner thoughts" or your "ambition". I hate all these lies being said.

 

[rakishness]

Why do we continue these lies time and time again. That guy styles is feeding into peoples fantasies. That any guy can pick up any women regardless of looks money or status. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Biggest load of BS you will ever hear.

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

Confidence is a man's backbone, self esteem, and willingness to stand up for himself, his beliefs, his ideals, etc and won't settle for less. If a woman says she wants a confident man, she means that she doesn't want a sniveling pushover.

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

Usually women mean confidence as in toughness or attitude.

For example a guy who has a "doesnt give a fvck" attitude is "confident"; the guy doesnt care if hes about to fight someone bigger than him, he does it anyway and gets in the guy's face, or about to do something that could get him into a lot of trouble with the law. Doesnt care if hes doing something risky etc.

It also means hes got that "tough attitude". You know those guys who are tough, the types that will fvck with yuo if you get in their way or look at them wrong; kind of the bad boy thing.

This is what women mean by confidence. they dont mean confidence as in "beleives he will succeed when he asks her out etc." or "beleives he is attractive". Although a guy who is confident in the way women really mean it would approach some chick and ask her out and when she blows him off or rejects him, he just calmly says in a relaxed tone "well fvck you then b1tch". he doesnt give a fvck and is kind of an @sshole

confidence=tough, badboy, has an attitude, not afraid to do things that can hurt him, alpha, not afraid to come across as really rude or an @sshole infront of people etc.

I have been curious too as to what women meant by "confidence". and have talked to many different women about it who all have never met eachother, yet all came up with pretty much that same definition of confidence I give above. This isnt my opinion on what it means, but is a composite on what women have told me what it means.

This definition of confidence is very hard to fake. By engaging in this confident behavior will require you to put yourself in situations where you can actually get hurt. for example, You would be required to stand up and fight the guy who can definitely put you in the hospital and disfigure you etc.

As for appearing confident, it has alot to do with your mannerism, how you talk, how you dress, how you handle yourself in situations and responde to people, a little bit to do with the lifestyle you live. Very difficult to fake.

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

Why do we continue these lies time and time again. That guy styles is feeding into peoples fantasies. That any guy can pick up any women regardless of looks money or status. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Biggest load of BS you will ever hear.

yep, the sad truth is that man cannot get any woman. ITs not possible. It just cant be done. we live in a cruel ugly world, but thats the nature of the beast.

And yes, the "gurus" are liars. No gurus truly exist. THey are all phonies.
The only true guru is experience (metaphorically speaking). You learn the truth about how to get women from your experiences. so get out there and do everything you can that can help you learn more about women and dating. Its not just about approaching women and gaining experience, its also about talking to women and asking them questions about the topic to learn more the female psyche. It also helps to be around attractive women and see how they react to different guys who hit on them, you learn alot about what works and what matters by seeing what guys succeed and what guys fail.

1. looks matter and are the primary predictor of success with attractive women.

2. Its not possible to get any woman no matter what you look like, how much money you have or how great your personality is. The best you can do is reach your full potential which will be limited.

3. its a numbers game, so keep playing the lottery until you win.

 

[knglerxt]

Usually women mean confidence as in toughness or attitude.

For example a guy who has a "doesnt give a fvck" attitude is "confident"; the guy doesnt care if hes about to fight someone bigger than him, he does it anyway and gets in the guy's face, or about to do something that could get him into a lot of trouble with the law. Doesnt care if hes doing something risky etc.

It also means hes got that "tough attitude". You know those guys who are tough, the types that will fvck with yuo if you get in their way or look at them wrong; kind of the bad boy thing.

This is what women mean by confidence. they dont mean confidence as in "beleives he will succeed when he asks her out etc." or "beleives he is attractive". Although a guy who is confident in the way women really mean it would approach some chick and ask her out and when she blows him off or rejects him, he just calmly says in a relaxed tone "well fvck you then b1tch". he doesnt give a fvck and is kind of an @sshole

confidence=tough, badboy, has an attitude, not afraid to do things that can hurt him, alpha, not afraid to come across as really rude or an @sshole infront of people etc.

I disagree. I see guys all the time who aren't "bad boys", and they have girlfriends and wives.

 

[Yapper]

yeah they have girlfriends and wives but i bet they're not exactly chick magnets.

 

[G0gL2000]

yeah, I doubt that those guys he speaks of are chick magnets.

This is an interesting topic, Ive wondered this about what confidence means too. hmmmm, interesting.

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

I disagree. I see guys all the time who aren't "bad boys", and they have girlfriends and wives.

You can see guys who are not badboys with girlfriends. But this doesnt change the fact that the definition I have given is the correct one.

Read that the definitions I have given is not my opinion, but based on what many women have told me what it means, all who have came up with the same explanation. you cant really argue against this when the definition I have provided was defined by women themselves.

confidence=badboy attitude, get over it.

Also, note that a guys looks is a more significant factor than how confident he is. A guy usually gets agirl becuase she thinks hes cute, not becuase she though he had that confidence.

 

[persiangino]

Usually women mean confidence as in toughness or attitude.

For example a guy who has a "doesnt give a fvck" attitude is "confident"; the guy doesnt care if hes about to fight someone bigger than him, he does it anyway and gets in the guy's face, or about to do something that could get him into a lot of trouble with the law. Doesnt care if hes doing something risky etc.

It also means hes got that "tough attitude". You know those guys who are tough, the types that will fvck with yuo if you get in their way or look at them wrong; kind of the bad boy thing.

This is what women mean by confidence. they dont mean confidence as in "beleives he will succeed when he asks her out etc." or "beleives he is attractive". Although a guy who is confident in the way women really mean it would approach some chick and ask her out and when she blows him off or rejects him, he just calmly says in a relaxed tone "well fvck you then b1tch". he doesnt give a fvck and is kind of an @sshole

confidence=tough, badboy, has an attitude, not afraid to do things that can hurt him, alpha, not afraid to come across as really rude or an @sshole infront of people etc.

I have been curious too as to what women meant by "confidence". and have talked to many different women about it who all have never met eachother, yet all came up with pretty much that same definition of confidence I give above. This isnt my opinion on what it means, but is a composite on what women have told me what it means.

This definition of confidence is very hard to fake. By engaging in this confident behavior will require you to put yourself in situations where you can actually get hurt. for example, You would be required to stand up and fight the guy who can definitely put you in the hospital and disfigure you etc.

As for appearing confident, it has alot to do with your mannerism, how you talk, how you dress, how you handle yourself in situations and responde to people, a little bit to do with the lifestyle you live. Very difficult to fake.

I think this guy hit the nail on the head. It's all about the "i don't give a ****" attitude that gets you the hottest women. Being the sniveling pushover aka nice guy might land you a girlfriend but then you're digressing from your masculinity. *****es love to show they prefer "nice guys" in public settings like bars and parties but ultimately it's the bad boy/ thug that gets them wet.

 

[rakishness]

I believe that confidence is a tool that can be used to get women.....But I will never believe that it ACTUALLY attracts them.

Example: Toughness allows you to perservere and play the numbers game. Which eventually leads to the right moment(timing) for success. But a girl doesn't think to her self...."hmmm....this guy is so tough.....let me spread my legs". LOL. Doesn't work that way.

It's all about appearing valuable to the woman. Different women value different things. BUT.....there are certain guys who appear VALUABLE to MOST WOMEN. And I'm sure everyone knows who these guys are.

 

[persiangino]

The ones that seem valuable are usually the ones who are confident aka the bad boy type. Women are very good at sensing confidence through body language which makes sense since we communicate mostly with our bodies, posture, faces, etc then words. The confident man has an uncanny understanding of his immediate surroundings and is able to use his body language to give off confident vibes in which *****es respond too. Very simple concept that most men will never understand or are unwilling to improve upon.

 

[DJ_in_making]

Why do you guys treat confidence and badboys as synonyms??

Although most bad boys are confident, I know a lot of confident guys who aren't ex-cons. Just b/c most nice guys don't have confidence doesn't mean ALL nice guys don't have confidence.

 

[rakishness]

Why do you guys treat confidence and badboys as synonyms??

Although most bad boys are confident, I know a lot of confident guys who aren't ex-cons. Just b/c most nice guys don't have confidence doesn't mean ALL nice guys don't have confidence.

I'm sure there are PLENTY of nice guys who have confidence. The problem is.....attractive women DONT VALUE nice guy BEHAVIOR. BUT many attractive women DO VALUE BAD BOY BEHAVIOR. Thats why bad boys will continue to get laid. And nice guys will continue to be a$$ out. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Raikojo17]

confidence is believing in urself and not taking crap from anyone. yes i can attract women, and most badd boys have this attitude.
but most women do not value bad boy behavior. only the messed up ones who are bad girls themselves.
women just want a guy who is not a insecure, sniveling , ass kissing pushover who is her person lap dog. not a fugitive.