Master Don Juan
- Jan 16, 2012
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Now that I recall that fact about loneliness for elders in Sweden came in a documentary on discovery channel, it all started with a surgeon who left the country to move to africa, he said that in there people cared about their families and old people was never abandoned.I googled "prevalence of loneliness by country" and got this, which says that loneliness is lower in northern Europe than in southern and eastern Europe (ctrl+f "sweden" and you'll get to the part saying that). However elderly people are still overrepresented in loneliness compared to the general population from what I googled in swedish. Sweden does have a very high rate of singles and single households. But the birth rate in countries like Spain and Ukraine, even Germany is actually significantly lower than here.
I have no idea if this is actually the case but I suspect that the more women can be provided for by society, the more free men become from having to be providers. If you can get daycare, parental leave, healthcare and various family subsidies, it frees the man from having to be a worker drone to pay for those things. The only things I don't like about it are the taxes on income and consumption instead of taxes on capital gains and wealth (stopgap solution), and there should be a contract you can sign with a woman saying you don't owe child support if she refuses to abort which I think would be fairer on both men and children.
lol I already feel like I hardly give a fvck anymore and I'm 26. I'm still open to meeting pleasant women who make my d!ck hard, but there is no way I will waste my life on OLD, antisocial media, clubs or cold approaching for the foreseeable future. Even if it can pay off sometimes, the cost benefit of energy and enjoyment is not worth it. If I meet women it's going to be by warm proximity. The funny thing is when you feel it in your body that you just don't care anymore, shame of you being or not being this or that doesn't work. I no longer give a single sh!t if I'm not internet alpha because I don't like cold approaching, or whatever.
Anyway I've gone on long enough, I'm more interested in your thoughts on this because you have more experience than me, being in your 30s. Although you kinda already explained your perspective in another thread. I will finalize my view by saying that I think just like the economy, the dating market will keep changing and reach a polarized state rather than a cathartic stage. It won't mean hell on earth for everyone in the dating market, but there will be more male losers as they are just not wanted or needed.
Then the docs moved back to Sweden where it said that many oldies live alone and die alone, they are found usually when the neightbours call the police either cause they no longer see them or cause of the smell, not sure how frequent is this but I guess it happens only among ethnic swedes.
Regarding the future, I agree with your vision, I see polarization happening and most all happening to a much faster rate than before.
I can tell for sure that compared to only 10 years ago sexual opportunities for the average man are decreased while top guys are having it easier and easiers by the day due to technology and a general cultural shift.
I'm glad that I hit my 20s between mid 00s and mid 10s, honestly I would have probably be one of those struggling if I had to be 20 right now.
Average quality of women is decreasing while their demands are growing and the sexual market allows for that, many countries also face gender imbalances due to immigration and emigration; many fvck buddies I had in eastern Europe now live in western Europe (and its usually more girls that guys to leave those countries) while at the same time mass migration from africa and middle east is increasing the number of young males in western europe.
The biggest issue in my opinion is that the average woman in her 20s would rather share a top guy with other 5 girls rather than have a guy her league only for herself, this habits persists till late 20s and early 30s.
In my mid 30s now I have it easier with women my age but honestly Im not that interested in them, I would also share a young fvck buddy with other 5 guys than have a woman my age only for myself.
At some point commitment becomes valuable, it makes the guy willing to provide it more interesting to a woman while a woman demanding committment becomes less interesting for a man.
Being raised from a single mom and female teachers is surely a big problem for young guys on their way to manhood, I still think most depends on genetic however, being short in 2019 is the kiss of death with women for example.It means the rise of young men raised by single mom's has turned many boys into just another girl in a young man's body.
I'm very certain that's not attractive to girls or women.