Bubs
Don Juan
Ugh, even nature has a god damn woman title ruling over us. Anyway...
When I started out trying to improve my interactions with girls by reading all this stuff, I was looking for one crucial thing that could apply to every girl I met. I was looking for that magic bullet that would just make sparks fly whenever a girl was around me.
With that kind of set-up, I was thinking about things like, “which personality trait should I try and improve? Which routine should I take on board?” Then a lot of people said, “Confidence is key”.
Okay okay, I can agree with that. Lets try being confident. Puff out my chest. Lift up my head. Improve my tone of voice etc. But then I looked around and noticed that a lot of guys out there are confident, yet half of them don’t get a girl. And I looked at certain guys who I thought demonstrated it, and I asked girls “what do you think about ______ ? Do you like him?” And some would say no. So that bust that little bubble that confidence is key.
So I’ll try something else. Okay, ****y. Lets throw that into the works. Lets bust her balls. I busted a girls balls and teased her, yet it still didn’t work all the time. Some girls were just like, “ugh”. And once again I noticed a lot of guys out there are ****y, and yet not all of them get the girl. I asked the same question to a girl, and some were like “Nahhhh”.
Obviously I came to the conclusion that being ****y wasn’t the magic bullet I was looking for. What else is there?
Laughter. Make her laugh her ass off and be doubled over just by your witticisms. Okay, so I looked up humour. Every time I met a girl I would be funny. I would focus on getting a laugh. Yet there are comedians out there who are HILARIOUS, and do you see them getting all the girls?
Then it just got silly. “learn an instrument. Girls love a guy who is a musician.” “Do magic tricks, learn cold reading. A girl loves it when you can shock her.”
There are so many traits and values to demonstrate that you become more focused on showing them off, rather than having an actual interaction. You have to remember that GIRLS ARE INDIVIDUALS!! What works for one girl will not work for another. They are as individual as me and you. One girl can think you being ****y is just you being an ass. She’s had experiences in the past and she stays away from that. That’s not your fault. Just bad timing there bubba. Some girls see confidence as being bigheaded. No no, again, not your fault. She’s had a lot of screwing around to deal with. Don’t take it personally.
What we ARE looking for when we get into reading about seduction and attraction, is the ability to widen our choices and have a bit more control. We want it to work most of the time. Now techniques and routines don’t do that. Sure, go ahead, learn the fiddle. See who it impresses. Learn a few ****y liners you can pull off.
Look, there is only one thing you need to demonstrate, and it applies not only to attraction, but to your life.
You want verification of that don’t you? Well lets look at some of the techniques you’ve probably read up about already.
Confidence – anybody who is confident is obviously comfortable with themselves enough to say, “hey, here I am. Come check me out”. If your comfortable, demonstrating confidence just comes naturally.
****y – you have to be comfortable to be able to pull off lines like that. But the line is to really show that you don’t mind if she turns around. Why? BECAUSE YOU’RE COMFORTABLE
Negs – same as ****y. You’re not afraid for her to turn her back on you. Because you are comfortable.
Laughter - people who have a sense of humour take life lightly and are COMFORTABLE! You think Richard Pryor can get up on stage infront of thousands, and tell how he shot his car just to keep his wife at home if he wasn't comfortable? That'd embarrass the hell outta me. But he can do it so easily and laugh about it because HE'S COMFORTABLE
I admit, girls do pull a lot of tests out of the hat and we act in ways that messes it all up. But the reason we ACT in the way we do is because we BELIEVE she is the one we are after. It’s social conditioning that has us feeling we should be there for her; that we should make it up to her; that we should apologise.
And why do you think you’re studying all these techniques? When you learn all these, what you are really saying is that you’re afraid you’re not good enough. So you want to find that thing to impress. After impressing her though, you’re stuck. What else have you got about you to keep it up?
There is no magic bullet. There is no one perfect trait. Being confident isn’t enough. Being ****y isn’t enough. Doing routines isn’t enough. Being funny isn’t enough. Wow, sounds like a lot of work if it’s all never enough.
Through my experiences, I think the best method is to:
ONE: BE COMFORTABLE IN YOURSELF
When you are comfortable, it makes a girl feel comfortable. There is no point in going up to a girl and trying to be something you’re not. Remember, she is just a person like everybody else. When you meet her you are just a stranger like everybody else. It's hard to feel comfortable with someone you don't know, unless you are the one comfortable already. That takes inner power and guts.
TWO: GET HER INVOLVED WITH FUNNY CONVERSATION
Talk to her like a normal person, and make it playful. That will come from being comfortable with yourself. You are comfortable with your friends and I’m sure you can have playful conversations with them. You have to! We all want to laugh. Can you ever have a conversation for 3hours without one laugh? It’s easy for people to be playful when they are comfortable with each other. They’re not thinking “oh god I screwed it up!” Something happens when you share a laugh with someone.
THREE: SHOW THAT YOU LIKE HER AND ARE COMFORTABLE WITH HER
This is the big one. This is what separates the friends from lovers. So many theories I’ve read say that you have to show mystery. If she shows a hint she likes you, act cold and pull away a little. Whaaaat? No!
One thing a girl loves to ask most in that pretty little head of hers is, “what did he mean by that?”
They love to try and guess. If you’re being playful, and you just blend in “you’re actually quite sexy. I like that” along with the conversation, her ears will pick it up, but she won’t say anything. She’ll be thinking, “hmmm, he just called me sexy. But he didn’t do it outright. What did he mean I’m sexy?”. Then she’ll try figuring you out more.
You don’t have to be overpowering with it. Subtle hints like that go WAY further because she plagues on them in her own head and she amplifies it.
With your own comfort with each other you will just automatically touch each other.
You have to show her you are interested in subtle ways. Do you honestly think you can play the back and forth game if you ever got into a relationship with this girl? No way! IT HAS TO BE NATURAL!
Comfort leads to things being automatic. And if you are comfortable with yourself, and you respect yourself, you automatically should know what you tolerate.
If you’ve ever read DeAngelo's work and believed ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE, then you should come to the conclusion that we already possess the skills inside of us to do what we need to do AT the right time. We feel it because it is instinct. Don’t argue with evolution fellas. We’ve had a blanket covered over our eyes.
All I’m saying is, give women some credit. They’re individuals just like us. And techniques don’t work on all of them.
Once you’re comfortable in yourself and you respect yourself, instinct takes over. Maybe you’re afraid to let that happen. Aw well, just stay learning all the “she said this, should I do that?” techniques.
IF YOU DO THAT YOU’RE SIMPLY SAYING YOU ARE AFRAID AND THAT YOU DON’T TRUST YOURSELF AND YOUR GOD GIVEN INSTINCTS.
What do you think happened when language wasn’t around? What do you think happened when fashion/clothing wasn’t around? What do you think happened when gimmicks weren’t around?
"But Bubsy boy, it matters now. Society is changing". Yeh society is, nature isn't. It is deep rooted inside all of us! We all want connection and we all want sexual attraction.
Let nature run it’s course. Be comfortable (it demonstrates an inner power. Not an outer power. Inner is what matters the most), make her feel comfortable, hint interest, and respect yourself so you’re not hanging around just for her – and things will happen as nature intended.
Thats through my experience anyway.
When I started out trying to improve my interactions with girls by reading all this stuff, I was looking for one crucial thing that could apply to every girl I met. I was looking for that magic bullet that would just make sparks fly whenever a girl was around me.
With that kind of set-up, I was thinking about things like, “which personality trait should I try and improve? Which routine should I take on board?” Then a lot of people said, “Confidence is key”.
Okay okay, I can agree with that. Lets try being confident. Puff out my chest. Lift up my head. Improve my tone of voice etc. But then I looked around and noticed that a lot of guys out there are confident, yet half of them don’t get a girl. And I looked at certain guys who I thought demonstrated it, and I asked girls “what do you think about ______ ? Do you like him?” And some would say no. So that bust that little bubble that confidence is key.
So I’ll try something else. Okay, ****y. Lets throw that into the works. Lets bust her balls. I busted a girls balls and teased her, yet it still didn’t work all the time. Some girls were just like, “ugh”. And once again I noticed a lot of guys out there are ****y, and yet not all of them get the girl. I asked the same question to a girl, and some were like “Nahhhh”.
Obviously I came to the conclusion that being ****y wasn’t the magic bullet I was looking for. What else is there?
Laughter. Make her laugh her ass off and be doubled over just by your witticisms. Okay, so I looked up humour. Every time I met a girl I would be funny. I would focus on getting a laugh. Yet there are comedians out there who are HILARIOUS, and do you see them getting all the girls?
Then it just got silly. “learn an instrument. Girls love a guy who is a musician.” “Do magic tricks, learn cold reading. A girl loves it when you can shock her.”
There are so many traits and values to demonstrate that you become more focused on showing them off, rather than having an actual interaction. You have to remember that GIRLS ARE INDIVIDUALS!! What works for one girl will not work for another. They are as individual as me and you. One girl can think you being ****y is just you being an ass. She’s had experiences in the past and she stays away from that. That’s not your fault. Just bad timing there bubba. Some girls see confidence as being bigheaded. No no, again, not your fault. She’s had a lot of screwing around to deal with. Don’t take it personally.
What we ARE looking for when we get into reading about seduction and attraction, is the ability to widen our choices and have a bit more control. We want it to work most of the time. Now techniques and routines don’t do that. Sure, go ahead, learn the fiddle. See who it impresses. Learn a few ****y liners you can pull off.
Look, there is only one thing you need to demonstrate, and it applies not only to attraction, but to your life.
SHOW YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH WHO YOU ARE
AND THAT YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.
AND THAT YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.
You want verification of that don’t you? Well lets look at some of the techniques you’ve probably read up about already.
Confidence – anybody who is confident is obviously comfortable with themselves enough to say, “hey, here I am. Come check me out”. If your comfortable, demonstrating confidence just comes naturally.
****y – you have to be comfortable to be able to pull off lines like that. But the line is to really show that you don’t mind if she turns around. Why? BECAUSE YOU’RE COMFORTABLE
Negs – same as ****y. You’re not afraid for her to turn her back on you. Because you are comfortable.
Laughter - people who have a sense of humour take life lightly and are COMFORTABLE! You think Richard Pryor can get up on stage infront of thousands, and tell how he shot his car just to keep his wife at home if he wasn't comfortable? That'd embarrass the hell outta me. But he can do it so easily and laugh about it because HE'S COMFORTABLE
I admit, girls do pull a lot of tests out of the hat and we act in ways that messes it all up. But the reason we ACT in the way we do is because we BELIEVE she is the one we are after. It’s social conditioning that has us feeling we should be there for her; that we should make it up to her; that we should apologise.
And why do you think you’re studying all these techniques? When you learn all these, what you are really saying is that you’re afraid you’re not good enough. So you want to find that thing to impress. After impressing her though, you’re stuck. What else have you got about you to keep it up?
There is no magic bullet. There is no one perfect trait. Being confident isn’t enough. Being ****y isn’t enough. Doing routines isn’t enough. Being funny isn’t enough. Wow, sounds like a lot of work if it’s all never enough.
Through my experiences, I think the best method is to:
ONE: BE COMFORTABLE IN YOURSELF
When you are comfortable, it makes a girl feel comfortable. There is no point in going up to a girl and trying to be something you’re not. Remember, she is just a person like everybody else. When you meet her you are just a stranger like everybody else. It's hard to feel comfortable with someone you don't know, unless you are the one comfortable already. That takes inner power and guts.
TWO: GET HER INVOLVED WITH FUNNY CONVERSATION
Talk to her like a normal person, and make it playful. That will come from being comfortable with yourself. You are comfortable with your friends and I’m sure you can have playful conversations with them. You have to! We all want to laugh. Can you ever have a conversation for 3hours without one laugh? It’s easy for people to be playful when they are comfortable with each other. They’re not thinking “oh god I screwed it up!” Something happens when you share a laugh with someone.
THREE: SHOW THAT YOU LIKE HER AND ARE COMFORTABLE WITH HER
This is the big one. This is what separates the friends from lovers. So many theories I’ve read say that you have to show mystery. If she shows a hint she likes you, act cold and pull away a little. Whaaaat? No!
One thing a girl loves to ask most in that pretty little head of hers is, “what did he mean by that?”
They love to try and guess. If you’re being playful, and you just blend in “you’re actually quite sexy. I like that” along with the conversation, her ears will pick it up, but she won’t say anything. She’ll be thinking, “hmmm, he just called me sexy. But he didn’t do it outright. What did he mean I’m sexy?”. Then she’ll try figuring you out more.
You don’t have to be overpowering with it. Subtle hints like that go WAY further because she plagues on them in her own head and she amplifies it.
With your own comfort with each other you will just automatically touch each other.
You have to show her you are interested in subtle ways. Do you honestly think you can play the back and forth game if you ever got into a relationship with this girl? No way! IT HAS TO BE NATURAL!
Comfort leads to things being automatic. And if you are comfortable with yourself, and you respect yourself, you automatically should know what you tolerate.
If you’ve ever read DeAngelo's work and believed ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE, then you should come to the conclusion that we already possess the skills inside of us to do what we need to do AT the right time. We feel it because it is instinct. Don’t argue with evolution fellas. We’ve had a blanket covered over our eyes.
All I’m saying is, give women some credit. They’re individuals just like us. And techniques don’t work on all of them.
Once you’re comfortable in yourself and you respect yourself, instinct takes over. Maybe you’re afraid to let that happen. Aw well, just stay learning all the “she said this, should I do that?” techniques.
IF YOU DO THAT YOU’RE SIMPLY SAYING YOU ARE AFRAID AND THAT YOU DON’T TRUST YOURSELF AND YOUR GOD GIVEN INSTINCTS.
What do you think happened when language wasn’t around? What do you think happened when fashion/clothing wasn’t around? What do you think happened when gimmicks weren’t around?
"But Bubsy boy, it matters now. Society is changing". Yeh society is, nature isn't. It is deep rooted inside all of us! We all want connection and we all want sexual attraction.
Let nature run it’s course. Be comfortable (it demonstrates an inner power. Not an outer power. Inner is what matters the most), make her feel comfortable, hint interest, and respect yourself so you’re not hanging around just for her – and things will happen as nature intended.
Thats through my experience anyway.
