"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What else can we do to conquer fear?

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DannyOcean

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It seems that so many PUA problems are rooted in fear (fear of approaching, fear of rejection, etc.). I've made it my mission to attack fear full on in my life. Many times through the day I ask myself "What am I most afraid to do right now?" and then I can do whatever that it is.

This has made an amazing difference in my life.

For instance, I've always been afraid to go skydiving. This weekend I'm doing it for the first time. I'm scared but can't wait to do it either.

I'm wondering what else some of you have done to help conquer fear. It seems like if we do this in all aspects of our life it will spill over into our interactions with women (and vice versa).

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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As a former US Army Ranger with 79 jumps and as a civilian with 4 freefall jumps I can tell you you're views on life are about to change. There's nothing like jumping out of an airplane at 12,500 ft. Good luck on that!

I've never had a problem talking to women it is the fear of approaching that I have a problem with.. After I started reading these forums I felt a little pressure to go out and not just meet women, but at the very least #close them. When I'd see a chick that I wanted to talk to I couldn't allow myself to focus on just talking to her. I was too consumed on devising a strategy to **** her. This killed my confidence and caused alot of anxiety which women can detect.

So I decided to only focus on meeting a woman and engaging her in conversation. No pressure to hook up. No worries about rejection. This has worked well for me. After a few minutes of talking to a woman I can usually tell if she'd be open to me asking her out. And, if you've misread them and they're not interested in more than banter they'll usually shoot you down very gently because they feel like they know you.
 
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I actually think it's a combination and conquering fears and acting in the face of fears that's the trick. By doing things you are scared of you build up your tolerance to do these types of things. The things that used to scare you don't anymore. If you stop there then frankly I think you are selling yourself short. The key is that once you de-sensitize yourself to a certain fear then you move on to the next fear and just keep going.

Do that and, as one of my friends says, you'll be telling your story to the world.
 
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