what does 'were friends' mean in ********

[Jaun_Don]

Boy am I puzzled I have been hanging out
with this cute 21 year old and we have been to the movies, had coffee dates and she even came over to my place to watch a DVD and drink wine, so yeah I saw her in a bar to night and sure enough she introduced me to her boyfriend and that was awkward, but then she sat down next to me, touched and flirted me with a lot and then when her boyfriend came to sit down again, she continued talking to me and said 'are we still on for the movies on weds? and I said nah...and she goes how come? so I pointed to her boyfriend and she goes oh but you and I are just friends and then I said nothing and she goes you are all grumpy now aren't you? and I said nah I'm off that's what I am bye...



she also sent txts saying that she was drunk home alone and kept send me funny txts, she also called me to meet a the bar I went too.

what gives here?

My brother and a female friend of his saw that she was into me by the way she acted around me...so is she a Next?.

I like her but I don't have strong feelings for her, just confused.

 

[DJDanny]

from what i read there if you're looking for something long term then NEXT.

But if you're just looking for a lay she's hanging it out there for you to grab.

 

[G-Man UK]

She's just taking you for a ride, kick her out of the car.

Respect

G-man

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by DJDanny
from what i read there if you're looking for something long term then NEXT.

But if you're just looking for a lay she's hanging it out there for you to grab.

seriously?, why would she txt me and ask me to come to a bar if she is going to be there with her boyfriend?.
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and why would she send me txts telling me that she was drunk home alone?

if she wants sex and she has a man, then if we hook up she is going to do the same **** to me right?.

 

[Aisujin]

NEXT!

She's using you for attention. Women like to know that they are still attractive to opposite sex even if they are in a comitted relationship. So they flirt, tease, and mess with the heads of other guys just to see if they can get a rise out of them. Then they run back to their bf or husbands. :cuss:

You said you don't have feelings for her, but you wouldn't have gotten upset if you didn't. Don't waste another second with this chick. If you think you can handle a platonic friendship with her then great go for it, just don't expect her to come running to your arms anytime soon.

Sarge on!

 

[flexion_]

You are in the LJBF zone. There really isn't much confusion - the more time you spend with her as a friend the less chance you will ever have of having sex with her.

If you want sex with her someday then drop her until she is single. If you want some platonic thing then keep in touch with her.

 

[spider_007]

Your just her "play thing" whith who she can flirt with when her b/f is buissy. Don't take that crap from her.

Originally posted by Jaun_Don
seriously?, why would she txt me and ask me to come to a bar if she is going to be there with her boyfriend

he flirted with some chick or looked at her, and this gurl needed to prove to him something so she called you up.....

 

[Bible_Belt]

If she is really your friend, then she will start introducing you to her single female friends. You could use her as a 'wingwoman.'

 

[Aisujin]

"If she is really your friend, then she will start introducing you to her single female friends. You could use her as a 'wingwoman.'"

Good point Ya gotta network!

 

[MacDiddy]

It means something, but right now, just completely ignore it and continue gaming her...

 

[Dee-Zy]

it means you are being used as a tool to elevate her self confidence while she ****s her boyfriend and you are home furstrated and masturbating.

 

[Jaun_Don]

I'm not sure if I should have done this or not but she txtd me and said "sorry I have been busy 2 day but hi"...so I txted her back and told her I got a ph number last night (I did) and asked her if the rule was 3 days before I called her and she sent a txt back saying umm i have no idea about that sorry...have a gd nite bye.

What's my next move?, I know this girl digs me, she wouldn't answer my txts straight away or ring me at home and her boyfriend is a dull dweeb...I want her help me fellow DJ's...

thanks

 

[Flyer]

flirty and not for sell..

the phrase 'AW' comes to mind..

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Flyer
flirty and not for sell..

the phrase 'AW' comes to mind..

yeah I think you are right ...so I should just Next her and move on?...what would you do?

 

[G-Man UK]

A simple NEXT! will suffice.

Respect

G-man

 

[DrMetallica]

I don't think you should next this one. If she's laying on the kino, trying to make plans, I think this could turn into something, but only if you can feel that she's into you romantically. Some girls are dorky and will do this even if they're not into you, but if you make eye contact for a long time and if you think she gets wet when you're around... Isolate, and conjugate.

 

[Alphathree]

"were friends" in ********? I don't know, friends of a werewolf?

 

[jmeredi]

I was just in this same situation a month ago. This girl would call me and ask me to come over and hang out. Heavy kino, wrestling, even un-snapped bra bareback lotion backrubs. Asking me questions and seeming aggravated when I told her I was seeing other girls. All the while she was seeing a bf she was in love with. She has moved away and is living with him now. All I can say is isolate her and make your move, if your looking for a lay go for it, but don't go for a LTR and expect her to break up with him (she will only do that on her own terms). She may be genuinely interested in you, but if she sees she can have you while she already has a bf, she'll more than likely drop you and stick with him.

 

[Johnnie5]

there is the possibility that she is shopping for a new boyfriend

some chicks are like that , their current bf might not be all that great but she likes the company so keeps him around until better comes along , but dont bank on that

if she is cool and you like hanging out with her then why stop that , relax man and enjoy the female company , since you are friends then you treat her as such and take no **** from her and she pays her own way and you dont suck up to her , just as you would with guy friends ,

she will prob be bacnging you in no time if you play like that

benefits you can practice game, use her to help hook up with other chicks ,

 

[Jaun_Don]

Bummer...I just got a message from her best friend...

"i dont want you to get hurt,so i think I should say that she only views you as a friend,and likes your company alot and says you are a lot of fun,but only wants to be friends and nothing more,even if she's ever single again."

to the point wouldn't you say...oh well...NEXT...