"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WORKEROUTER

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After doing some stuff with this chick (who definately is interested in me), she tells me that she's dating other guys also (apparently guys have been hitting on her recently) and that she doesn't want a long-term relationship right now.

This is confusing to me. What would you guys say this means? Does it indicate a low interest level? This doesn't make sense though because she is definately into me, yet if she is as interested as she acts, why the hell would she be dating other guys. I was thinking maybe she just wanted to try to put some pressure on me (since I've been doing this to her), trying to make me think there's some competition, so that I just don't blow her off.

What are your guys' thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Desdinova

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It means she has the right concept of dating. Too many women will get all pissy if you're dating them but seeing other women. This is a great opportunity for you to see other women as well, or gain a f buddy.
 

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She is telling you that she doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you thats all. Its not a bad thing at all - she is just being honest with you.

At some point she'll let you know if she wants to exclusively date you.

So what that means is don't put all your eggs in one basket and just have fun with her and date other people right now.
 

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i've had this happen to me with an HB9 if you just play it cool, like i did she'll end up ditching the other guys for you and you can probably end up an a pretty good relationship.

how long it goes on for is totally up to you or how you act during the relationship.
 

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Spot on, you got some great replies!

This is totally normal and reasonable. She could be seeing other people at this point, or she could be fabricating it.

Its doesn't matter at this point. You're not even together, it's her business!

What matters whether you can play your cards right and get at date with her.

Play from there.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks for the replies. I think you guys pretty much hit it dead on. I'm just gona play it cool right now.
 
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