Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
so ive been in a ltr for over a year now. yesterday, she was like "i dont feel the same about us emotionally". what the hell is the translation on that one? should i cut bait and go?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
what does this mean
- Thread starter Paintballguy
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Korrupt
Banned
She's telling you that she's losing interest. Though there may be a secret meaning that a more experienced guy here can delve into.Paintballguy said:
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
That means it's time to pack your bag and make a graceful exit. She basically told you she doesn't feel the same about you as you feel about her. Keep this one to yourself and just go, saves you a hell of a lot of trouble.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
yeah, thats basically what i thought. oh well it is what it is. im hitting the bar tomorrow with some friends. lol
5string
Master Don Juan
You got dumped buddy. Just her way of saying it. You are right....it is what it is. Look at it as a good thing. You are ridding yourself of someone who does not want to be with you. Some women won't even be that up front with you. Those types tend to let things just deteriorate to the point where the guy just has to say "pack yer panties and git". Have a good time out with your friends.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
"Remember the way I used to feel about you a few months ago when we first started going out? I feel that way for someone new now and don't have the decency and common courtesy to let you know... so, I'm going to beat around the bush enough... just enough to give you a while to go post about it on an internet forum although I'm already sure you have figured out that this relationship ended a while ago. Now, once you figure it out, please dump me but stick around just in case this new branch doesn't work out. I promise that once you dump me, I will do my best to act surprised and almost hurt about this."Paintballguy said:
Korrupt
Banned
Hahaha! There it is.Kailex said:
Did not mean to laugh at OP's misfortune.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
yeah i just ended it and there was no negative reaction from her. i picked up on it a few days ago. she was just acting weird, so she must of felt this way for awhile. i just cant figure out what triggered the change. oh well its over now
i really dont care man. i was getting the itch to be single again anyways.Korrupt said:
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Don't contact her ever again in no way shape or form. She'll get curious that she made a mistake and try to worm her way back in for info on you. Don't even reply. It'll drive her insane. And just move on. She'll feel like she is the one on the "losing" end even if she has another guy. Believe me.
Just try to learn from the experience and what you may've done wrong to better yourself as a person and not for anyone else.
Leave her thinking "What does this mean?"
Just try to learn from the experience and what you may've done wrong to better yourself as a person and not for anyone else.
Leave her thinking "What does this mean?"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
with every negative comes a positive.
just was talking to a coworkers fiance, and she is going to set something up to meet her recently single cute friend. thats why i always keep my head up. u never know whats around the corner.
just was talking to a coworkers fiance, and she is going to set something up to meet her recently single cute friend. thats why i always keep my head up. u never know whats around the corner.
nismo-4
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Translation: Thank you Paintballguy! But your Princess is in another castle! (And your princess is getting another castle in her!)
If a girl starts acting weird with you and you are her bf/ husband, it means she has feelings for another guy and she doesn't want you to know.
Think of becoming someone's bf or husband like buying and owning a car. And we all know that you need to pay the note, insurance, gas, maintenance, etc. If you don't pay those things, it gets repossessed and if you don't keep the motor right, the car might not run and you'll have costly repairs.
In other words, Getting the girl is one thing. Keeping her is a task in itself. Keep the attraction going. Most guys don't do this, so these girls go find guys who will keep it going. Some symptoms that show when a girl you're in a relationship with is losing interest in you are:
1. She's putting out less often.
2. She's going out with her friends more than you.
3. She's getting less physical with you.
4. She's iffy about going places with you.
5. She's more of a friend than a lover.
Everyone who answered this (even me) by saying that she's just not that into you (it's over, short and sweet, thanks maqnetic) and it's true. Kailex gives the girl's standpoint of when she told you this and he's painfully accurate!
Naughty Ninja and Sandhawk made a valid point that you should leave regardless of whether or not she comes running back to you. And that's Judge nismo's verdict. Leave. For your own safety and health.
Case closed.
If a girl starts acting weird with you and you are her bf/ husband, it means she has feelings for another guy and she doesn't want you to know.
Think of becoming someone's bf or husband like buying and owning a car. And we all know that you need to pay the note, insurance, gas, maintenance, etc. If you don't pay those things, it gets repossessed and if you don't keep the motor right, the car might not run and you'll have costly repairs.
In other words, Getting the girl is one thing. Keeping her is a task in itself. Keep the attraction going. Most guys don't do this, so these girls go find guys who will keep it going. Some symptoms that show when a girl you're in a relationship with is losing interest in you are:
1. She's putting out less often.
2. She's going out with her friends more than you.
3. She's getting less physical with you.
4. She's iffy about going places with you.
5. She's more of a friend than a lover.
Everyone who answered this (even me) by saying that she's just not that into you (it's over, short and sweet, thanks maqnetic) and it's true. Kailex gives the girl's standpoint of when she told you this and he's painfully accurate!
Naughty Ninja and Sandhawk made a valid point that you should leave regardless of whether or not she comes running back to you. And that's Judge nismo's verdict. Leave. For your own safety and health.
Case closed.
Megaman XIV
Senior Don Juan
Nismo is spot on with the fact that you need to keep the attraction going or the girl will cheat on you.
But to the OP, just move on. You'll be better off.
But to the OP, just move on. You'll be better off.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
been there, done that and got the t shirt lolMegaman XIV said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
just an update of what happened:
she called me over the past weekend, and she was like " i just want some time to figure stuff out". i say, "thats fine, but i cant guarantee that ill be here". she said "well why dont we go our seperate ways". i respond, "i agree, it would be for the better." that was pretty much it. im cutting off conversation past that.
she called me over the past weekend, and she was like " i just want some time to figure stuff out". i say, "thats fine, but i cant guarantee that ill be here". she said "well why dont we go our seperate ways". i respond, "i agree, it would be for the better." that was pretty much it. im cutting off conversation past that.