i've been on here for awhile and still learning the tricks of the trade and i had a question. what does a girl mean when she says "i want someone to tell me like it is and will put me in my place if need be"? i need an example so i can relate that to what shes really saying. i know she doesnt want an afc guy, but that kind of made me wonder what she meant by that.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
what does this mean?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
It means dont beat around the bush when you got something to say. Dont be afraid to speak what is on your mind. If you got a problem with her.. Let her know. If you dont agree with her; tell her your opinion....
Its nothing to relate to. Its something a man should do.
Its nothing to relate to. Its something a man should do.
scrouds
Master Don Juan
It means she wants a strong man that doesn't take her bullshiit. She knows what turns her on. Haha, understanding that we strive for here. She gets it, do you?
I.A.F.Y.B. said:It means dont beat around the bush when you got something to say. Dont be afraid to speak what is on your mind. If you got a problem with her.. Let her know. If you dont agree with her; tell her your opinion....
Its nothing to relate to. Its something a man should do.
see ive always been sonfused about this i think. i thought it meant like tell her what to do and run her life for her or something. i always felt like that was stupid, but i guess ive been looking at it in the wrong way? does it mean like for instance i want to go eat somewhere, but she wants to go eat somewhere else but i put my foot down and "tell her" we're going to eat at the place i want? i know i sound like a fool probably but this is probably one of my biggest flaws im having to overcome. ofcourse i dont agree with everything anyone says and am not scared to tell them so. i just need some examples so i can relate what it means.
scrouds said:It means she wants a strong man that doesn't take her bullshiit. She knows what turns her on. Haha, understanding that we strive for here. She gets it, do you?
nope i dont get it...yet. im not afraid to admit it.haha ive just always been like do whatever you want to do, and ill do my thing. is that wrong? it must be as it hasnt gotten me anywhere. i dont want to be anyones damn babysitter thats for sure, everyone has their own mind and can think for themselves. what do you mean dont take her bull****? i do know she hasnt had a boyfriend since 2003 and im the first guy shes considered dating since then.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
scrouds
Master Don Juan
Its not that wrong. But there is an alternative. You're kind of ignoring that you want the girl there to hang out. You can show that you want her. But make her compromise to make it happen. Its a fine line to walk.
For example, chick I was seeing texted me saying if i wanted to watch some bull**** movie. Told her I had to clean the apartment and I didn't want to see that movie. Told her to bring food, and come help me clean and we'll watch something else (Pulled out the recruit from my meager dvd collection).
In this case it was some stupid chick flick. Now I don't want to watch that crap. She kept trying to sell it to me, I just said no. An AFC dating some girl would easily think "Well all i have to do is sit through this movie, then I will get some ass." Don't do shiit you don't want to do. Don't let her walk over you.
For example, chick I was seeing texted me saying if i wanted to watch some bull**** movie. Told her I had to clean the apartment and I didn't want to see that movie. Told her to bring food, and come help me clean and we'll watch something else (Pulled out the recruit from my meager dvd collection).
In this case it was some stupid chick flick. Now I don't want to watch that crap. She kept trying to sell it to me, I just said no. An AFC dating some girl would easily think "Well all i have to do is sit through this movie, then I will get some ass." Don't do shiit you don't want to do. Don't let her walk over you.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
She's saying:Robert28 said:i've been on here for awhile and still learning the tricks of the trade and i had a question. what does a girl mean when she says "i want someone to tell me like it is and will put me in my place if need be"? i need an example so i can relate that to what shes really saying. i know she doesnt want an afc guy, but that kind of made me wonder what she meant by that.
"I want someone who is strong, and assertive, with enough backbone to stick to his guns when he feels he's right, and when I $hit test him or start with all my drama and girl issues. Someone who is not affraid to say "NO" to me, and will call me out on my BS, as I am tired of all these "yes men" type of girlie men."