"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yoko Kurama

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Okay, I've liked this girl in my school for about a month, I've been talking to her every other day, because I have block scheduling. Some days I wouldn't talk to her so she wouldn't suspect.

Last week I asked her for her number, I got it. I sent a text to her over the weekend, she responded, we only texted for fifteen minutes. Today, I talked to her in Spanish, she sits right across from me, I poked her, flirting of course. She said hey, then she said it was weird when I poked her.

I asked her, "Does that make you feel uncomfortable?", she said "no". The, our substitute teacher told us to pair up, she usually pairs with me. This time she said "I am gonna partner with Taylor, talk to you later", I said okay. I was partnered with my friend Nick, she was sitting at another table with Taylor.

You see, I can tell if someone is talking about me, because people make it more obvious then they think they do. She looked my way, then said something to Taylor, I looked at her, not meaning to. She then motioned Taylor to move in front of her so I couldn't tell what she was saying.

I am gonna go out on a limb her as say that she was not saying good things about me. She returned to her table after the project was completed. I felt my temper boiling, I contained it though, knowing that having an emotional outburst would not suit what was going on.

I need other opinions/advice on the situation. Thanks in advance.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WalkingStick

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There's no reason to think she was saying anything bad. Ignore it and move on with the girl.
 

SinJester

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People always get into probems when they start analysing what other people are doing. It's called over-analysing for a reason. None of us can read minds so why do we always try to? Just look at your post, honestly can any of us go 'well this is what she was thinking about you'. No!

I am gonna go out on a limb her as say that she was not saying good things about me. She returned to her table after the project was completed. I felt my temper boiling, I contained it though, knowing that having an emotional outburst would not suit what was going on.
It's a bloody good thing you didn't, thats grade A AFC behaviour. Stop worrying about what the girl is doing and focus on what you are doing. Look I used to do all those things too. It just doesn't get you anywhere. Stop observing and ask the girl out. That way you KNOW where you stand, you aren't guessing and trying to psycho analyse anymore.
 

Yoko Kurama

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Thanks for well informed advice. She is Irish anyway, impervious to psycho-analysis lol
 
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