What does this mean...???

[mystic03]

Hello everyone...


The situation is like this: talking to this girl at work I found out that she likes certain seafood dish and when I told her I also like it she said "let me know when you go again"... since that I never mention it again because I didn't know if she liked me or not because she's very nice to everyone at work and didn't see the diference with me...
One day we were talking and suddenly she told me "hey, remember, we need to go the restaurant to eat (the dish I told earlier)". It was a tuesday and I asked her to go Sunday, she replied "I'll let you know later in the week".
Of course she didn't, and I knew she wasn't going to, but the question is: why did she bring it up if she isn't interested at all, as far as I know I didn't do anything wrong (Did I?), I know it's maybe stupid to try to anylize this but I need to learn from my mistakes (if there was any).

Coments please....

 

[Sun Tzu]

"Let me know tomorrow. If you're not available I'm going to make other plans".

This way, you're taking control away from her.

 

[joekerr31]

you know how the only thing you really care about if you think a woman is just unbelievably gorgeous is getting laid?

well all most women care about is knowing that they can have you. they want to know for sure that you want them. which is why they will tease you until you break and start pulling AFC sh*t to show them how much you want them.

theres a reason AFCs exist in this world. some will blame television, or poor parenting, etc. but the truth is that women will mess with a guys mind until he becomes an AFC.

now, ironically they dont want an AFC, what they are actually after is a sense that a man REALLY wants them. so they will be ambiguous, be hot one minute and cold the next, pull you in then push you away - and each time you come back their ego gets a boost and they get a 'high' from being wanted.

most guys however, having this push and pull game eventually go nuts and break down and become needy. women dont realize that the "push" part is a direct hit to a man ego. and yes, although it might make some chase harder, many just become dazed and confused and ultimately timid, angry and needy.

sounds like this chic is merely playing with you like a fish on the hook. she reels you in a bit, then eases off, then reels you in again.

the best thing to do in these scenarios is to reverse the tables. pick a day and say 'lets go tuesday'. if she gives an ambigous answer or doesn't get back to you - toss her on the reject list. often once you do this they suddenly become the aggressor wanting to pin you down on a time and place. often by this point your over them, having realized they were just f*cking with your mind, and you are free to either feed em and f*ck em without any concern for their feelings or simply have fun being ambigous with them while knowing you have no real intention of pursuing them.

good luck

 

[edmond]

Hello everyone...


The situation is like this: talking to this girl at work I found out that she likes certain seafood dish and when I told her I also like it she said "let me know when you go again"... since that I never mention it again because I didn't know if she liked me or not because she's very nice to everyone at work and didn't see the diference with me...
One day we were talking and suddenly she told me "hey, remember, we need to go the restaurant to eat (the dish I told earlier)". It was a tuesday and I asked her to go Sunday, she replied "I'll let you know later in the week".
Of course she didn't, and I knew she wasn't going to, but the question is: why did she bring it up if she isn't interested at all, as far as I know I didn't do anything wrong (Did I?), I know it's maybe stupid to try to anylize this but I need to learn from my mistakes (if there was any).

Coments please....

It means, time to move on.