What does this mean? Why am I not being taken seriously?

[Lomi]

Alright then he is just an ******* and you should avoid him as people who intentionally create conflict are bad for your mental health.

 

[DreamyChick]

Okay boys why does he keep saying he wants me to invite him to do stuff if he can't stand me?

 

[wjh]

hahaha this guy is slick

ask him out, stop being a puss, i think there are bigger issues that stem from hours and hours of conversations you've had together

so i would say, you should know what to do best... and, you're not going to change him. so either live with it, or stop talking to him altogether because you're not going to get what you want

 

[wjh]

Originally posted by DreamyChick
Okay boys why does he keep saying he wants me to invite him to do stuff if he can't stand me?

he must have read the DJ bible.

he's pushing and pulling.

even if he didn't mean to do it, this confusion you have is getting to you and is seperating him from the "norm"

he's made a place for himself in your heart/head and has the potential to do whatever he wants with you... so long as he asks

 

[DreamyChick]

Originally posted by wjh
he must have read the DJ bible.

he's pushing and pulling.

even if he didn't mean to do it, this confusion you have is getting to you and is seperating him from the "norm"

he's made a place for himself in your heart/head and has the potential to do whatever he wants with you... so long as he asks

what issues are you referring to?

Exactly he has to ask it's my rule.

This is why and what I told him-

The major one is that you will be to hard to entertain and you will complain about what I ask you to do. Where as me I never make a big deal about what we do right? I always have fun. You I feel like would be more picky.

Him-
sounds like a lot of bull**** and hollow assumptions to me... as usual

usually when I spend time with my friends we don't do anything.. but sit around and drink some beers... it's about the conversation more than the activity that's involved...

Me- I don't want to disappoint you and then you get bored.
Besides haven't we had all the possible conversations we can have by now? LOL thanks for that WJH.

Him
surely you're kidding... not even close... there's a lot more to the world than things we've talked about...

Me-

Nope I am not bc we always have the same conversations its getting old.

Him-
maybe either I should stop preaching or you should learn... since you're not learning.. I stop preaching.. how about that?

Me- Fine with me.

Him- Deal

Me- Are you working Friday bc I am free to do something that night.

 

[wjh]

so did he say yes or no to going out?

 

[DreamyChick]

He said he has to work from 3pm to 11pm and says that doesn't count as me asking. He said all I did was ask him if he was working and I told him I implied it and that was as good as he is going to get.

I absolutely hate being put in this position.

And what issues are you talking about?

 

[wjh]

he's playing games with you

wake up already, geez.

 

[DreamyChick]

Why whats the point?

 

[wjh]

Who knows? It could be for a million reasons. Everyone's different. But what I do know is that you don't have to deal with this. You can move on, completely ignore him, and stop this manipulation. So do it! Are you that desperate for one man's attention?

 

[DreamyChick]

No but he just confuses me when he switches things up. And then what I thought I wanted isn't so clear anymore. Besides I have told him to leave me alone and he doesn't.

 

[wjh]

Why are you taking this crap? Why is your self-esteem so low? This is what you think you deserve?w

Maybe you should seek therapy so you can deal with your confidence issues.

 

[wjh]

Originally posted by DreamyChick
Besides I have told him to leave me alone and he doesn't.

Ignore him!!! You don't have to respond/call back/pick up his phone calls/etc.

 

[DreamyChick]

Originally posted by wjh
Why are you taking this crap? Why is your self-esteem so low? This is what you think you deserve?w

Maybe you should seek therapy so you can deal with your confidence issues.

Maybe I do. There's something about him that is just good at convincing me. He did this with his ex too and she did need therapy after him. He's charismatic.

 

[wjh]

No, let's clear this up, his ex and you both needed therapy before him. He was just the catalyst.

Either enjoy the fact that he's playing you for a fool, and revel in it. Or move on without any clear answers, because you won't get any. Not from us, not from you, and certainly not by sitting at your computer hoping that one day he'll change into prince charming.

He's been successful with his manipulation in the past, and he's not going to change for YOU.

So get over the fact that he's manipulating you and enjoy his charisma, or dump him and find someone who is more on your level (whatever that may be).

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by DreamyChick
He said he has to work from 3pm to 11pm and says that doesn't count as me asking. He said all I did was ask him if he was working and I told him I implied it and that was as good as he is going to get.

I absolutely hate being put in this position.

And what issues are you talking about?

Goddamn it woman...you do NOT ask that man out.

You tell him straight up that it is the MAN'S job to to the asking out and you're only interested in going out with a Man. Tell him if he wants a woman that does the asking he can march right over to the NOW a find him a nice "empowered" womyn who'll fix him right up.

Don't you DARE ask that man out..I'll hunt you down and kick your ass if you do....

 

[DreamyChick]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Goddamn it woman...you do NOT ask that man out.

You tell him straight up that it is the MAN'S job to to the asking out and you're only interested in going out with a Man. Tell him if he wants a woman that does the asking he can march right over to the NOW a find him a nice "empowered" womyn who'll fix him right up.

Don't you DARE ask that man out..I'll hunt you down and kick your ass if you do....

LMAO thanks wild. I haven't. I can't bring myself to do it.


But look what he said:

it's not begging unless you ask more than once.... see that's insecurity talking...

a bit of advice - because I want you to be healthy and have good relationships - this type of insecurity turns people off... who's going to want to date you or spend time with you as a friend if you don't even have the initiative to ask if they want to get together w/ you... really think about it for a few mins..


Me- I ask people I just don't ask you.

Him- well we've already concluded that maybe this is because I am one of those human beings that has a penis... you know a male? you're insecurity when dealing with those of the opposite sex... I mean if you can't deal w/ someone of the opposite sex as a friend, then how do you plan on ever having a romantic relationship with one?


This is kind of romantic.

It's storming here so I told him I hate storms bc they scare me and he said this:

there's only about two things in the world I like better than sitting on a screened porch at night w/ the lights out during a thunderstorm... hear the rain pouring down on a tin roof and see the sky light up when the lightning flashes, a strong fresh breeze in your face... lovely...

Then I said I love falling asleep to the rain or standing it but for me the lightening is too predictable so he said this:

well i am not a big fan of standing out in the yard holding a lightning rod in that kind of weather... but I do think it's beautiful... nice to watched from a screened in porch..

And I called it nature's own passion.

 

[Tazman]

It seems pretty simple to me. The guy sees you as a girl he could fvck, and that's about it. He doesn't put any effort into "winning" you because he just doesn't care that much. He "annoys" you because you both act like children, I mean look at these discussions you have with him, what do you expect? He entertains the possibility of hooking up with you (with minimal effort on his part) but he isn't desperate so he just enjoys toying with you as long as you keep thinking he's going to chase you.

 

[Wyldfire]

Dreamychick...this guy is trying to play you. Players are a dime a dozen. Unless you want to be used for a piece of ass and then tossed aside then ignore this guy.

He's attempting to use NLP type crap on you...and he's not very good at it, either...it's blatantly obvious to me that's what he's up to.

Turn this sh*t around on him...

1. Do not call him
2. Do not email him
3. Do not message him
4. If he wants to see you, you are busy
5. If he calls, you can't talk
6. If he emails you...you don't reply for 24 hours and then keep it short and to the point.
7. Take away ALL attention
8. If you see him around, give ALL your attention to the least attractive guy present (don't lead that guy on, though)
9. Date as many other men as you can fit into your schedule.

This guy is trying to make you feel insecure in yourself. Don't let him. The best way to deal with a player is to know when you're dealing with one and beating them at their own game. He'll either find some other girl's emotions to screw with or he'll fall for you hard because you're more of a challenge than he bargained for.

 

[DreamyChick]

Sounds about right but what does NLP stand for?