What does this mean, and will she come around?

[Big Eee Zee]

Long story short I was going out with this girl for a month. It was really more of a friends with benefits type relationship as she doesn't let people get close to her very much. A few days ago she said she wanted to go back to being friends (we were friends before this). She said I was very attractive, fun to be around, amazing in bed (she said this to other people too ) and had a great body-everything she was looking for in a boyfriend. Only she wasn't mentally attracted to me, there was no "spark".

My friend said I should start being a **** to her, but he meant DJ. he said be busy, don't pick up the phone, don't hang out with her and only talk very infrequently to let her know I don't hate her, she just isn't a part of my life now. He said she will either go crazy for me or hate me, either one would be fine.

Well, what do you think? I'm already cutting off contact, will she come around? At this point I would settle for a strictly physical relationship. Is that possible, or will she just begin to hate me? Either one I don't care, but at this point I wouldn't mind getting some action. (I forgot to say, she is something of a sex addict.)

 

[cave dweller]

your game........

Hey,

Let her have 'her space'.

If you work your game right she will become your 'special friend' and give you a 'booty call' once in awhile.

Hell, that is all you need anyway.

cave dweller

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This was just one of the things that could happen with a FB relationship. Don't treat it as if it was more than what it was.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

well, she kept saying we were going out and that I was her BF etc. Her friends said that she really liked me too. But she is a ***** and very self-centered, so I don't want any ltr anymore, but I wouldn't mind f*cking her.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well, choose whether the hassle is worth the fvck.

 

[Big Eee Zee]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Well, choose whether the hassle is worth the fvck.

wise words...

Honestly, she is pretty hot, shes experienced and it's only for 2 more months, cause we're going to different colleges. I'd say yeah, if it is possible. I'm going to her house next weekend for a drunk night, parent free. It's a birthday party for another girl, and that person is like my sister, she wouldn't dream of not inviting me. I think if this girl gets drunk she'll be begging me to take her (she has done it before.)

God, she has soured me on women. I wen't into this with no experience whatsoever. I was naieve and believed girls could be rational and kind.





Gentlemen, you today have witnessed the death of an AFC. I look foward to meeting you all on the path to becoming a DJ in the near future.

 

[Lost In Translation]

she is a h0.

as a FB you will have trouble upgrading it to a LTR.

you can downgrade a LTR to FB easier.


i like the ******** she said :

" she doesn't let people get close to her very much "

she tells you that ?

not close to her ?

all these dudes D*CKS are up INSIDE HER !!!

you can't get no closer ! and if she feels NO attachment at all

her heart is as hard as a rock.

she is a veteran a seasoned h0. been in the game too long and turned cold

SHE IS NOT LTR MATERIAL !

snap out of it !

you are falling in love with a VAMPIRE ! you are just another victim she likes to SUCK ON !

here is some school for you :

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“First off - she is just another hor who has opened her legs to another man - you are no one special - and there are no "Greatest" to hors - you are just the next pimp in line!!! “

get some other women on your starting lineup and kill that oneitis !


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[Big Eee Zee]

umm, i did.

And she didn't say that let people get close to her. I figured that out. It isn't BS, she really is hard to get close to.

I wouldn't call her a ho. I was her second, as far as I can tell. She is more of a b!tch, being coldharted and flirtatious. I don't love her. After what she did to me, I just wanna rail her, hard. that would make me feel better. No relationship, I wouldn't mind FBs. However, she said that she wasn't attracted to me. That was the main problem. So I think if I cut off contact and act aloof, hanging out with everyone but her, that she might come around. Even if not, she'd be an easy target if she got drunk.

 

[becker]

Man, I can relate, my last relationship was sort of like this, except she was attracted to me, but was the kind of girl who admittedly wanted what she couldn't have, meaning that the way to get her is to not want her, so psychologically these girls are extremely draining.

I think as long as you don't get attached to her in any way, you'll be fine just being FWB with her, but if not, you're in for a long draining ride. Good luck-

 

[Big Eee Zee]

I still haven't been answered my question. Yes, fwb-fvckbuddies-whatever will work if I can pull it off. But keeping in mind what she said-I am physically attracted to you but not mentally, my mind was elsewhere-if she said that do you think simply keeping aloof and cutting off attention will be enough to turn her on? She is quite posessive, and really wanted to be my friend, so I think cutting her off will be enough, but what do y'all think?

 

[smoke city]

i'd say there's maybe a 5% chance (at best) that this girl will get back with you. what she really is saying is that she "thinks you're attractive" but is not "attracted" to you. happens all the time. that's why there are lots of "attractive" guys who come to this site.
your best chance, if you have one at all, is to start dating other women. preferably hot girls that she knows. maybe she can introduce you!

 

[penkitten]

a one month relationship is a fling .
treat it as a fling.

long term means more than a month.

move on, you dont want her in the long run .

 

[Big Eee Zee]

but i want the fling back for the rest of the summer.

She has invited me to watch some tv shows we were talking about seeing a while ago with her and another girl I know. Should I blow it off cause I'm too busy? Like, where's the line between "I'm busy" and "I don't wanna be around you". I don't want her to think I hate her but I do want her to realize I got other **** to do.