What does this behaviour mean?

[mactheripper]

Here's the deal.

Met this girl through a mutual friend, invited her out skating with a large group of our mutual friends. She seemed really into me (especially considering the attention she was giving to the other guys there) and I reckon we hit it off. Somehow, amongst the crowd, when saying goodbye we were in a one on one situation. On purpose I made the personal space between us a little bit larger than usual just to see if she would make the effort to give me a friendly kiss goodbye - she made the effort all while I remained somewhat aloof as I had done the whole night.

I rang her up a week after to confirm details of a party she invited me to, that all went well and she seemed pleased that I called her.

But, here's the thing I noticed.

She didn't seem to interested in probing me with background information. ie job, where I come from, family etc... I mean, she hasn't asked me what I do for a living. I tried to bring it up in convo over the phone (saying that I was really busy doing a bit of overtime) and it did not spark her interest.

However....

She was quite liberal with information about herself. Her job, where she came from, hobbies, personal anecdotes.

Now, either she's really into herself (which I would normally assume however it didn't come across that way), or for once she's trying to prove herself (sell her self) to me. I know I used to do this all the time before I realised that a bit of mystery about who I am and not letting on too much too soon helps with attraction.

Also...

She laughs a lot around me, she's always happy and having a good time. With hardly any prompting from me, it's like, the easiest gig in the world. It's almost like she's laughing at her own jokes/stories however it doesn't come across as a nervousness thing, which I suspect it could be...

Anyone know what the hell I rambling on about?

What's your take on this girl?

 

[MrS]

I;m going for the 2nd option, it's good for you, judging on what you're saying.

 

[spider_007]

I had a gurl like that, we ended up being good FRIENDS. She would come to me a wine about her boy cruchses, She just needed someone to talk to, and was never curious about me. Make sure you don't make the same mistake I did.

Also, I sopose it's worth mentioning that, lot of peple love to talk about them selfs.....

 

[themanwithnoname]

Seems like she has a big ego and lacks some empathic social skills.

 

[mactheripper]

I agree with you spider_007 about the friends thing. I'm determined to make my intentions clear through body language and then verbally, no way am I going to fall into the friends zone with this girl. Next time I see her it's going to be up to her to make conversation by asking me questions! Good idea?

Although without me knowing for sure, this all could be working in my favour if her interest level in me is being raised if she's fantasizing about me without knowing much about me.

 

[libre]

Dear sir

If she wasn't interested, she would be at best distant and not open to discussing with you. She sure would not be bubbly and happy to talk to you.

Be happy and don't let your self doubts sabotage that opportunity. If she is self centered, you will find soon enough.

She might be talking a lot because she is spelling her sales pitch. She is filling the void because you are not talking very much (that's ok according to me), because she is a bit eager and nervous, ...

Be happy, don't worry.

 

[mactheripper]

True, true. I suppose I approach the situation like any good Don Juan would, almost like I don't care. Which in many ways I don't, but I also don't like opportunities slip by.

It's hard to convey the type of body language this girl is conveying as well, but I appreciate hearing everyone's experiences with a similar sort of thing.

I'll probably assess her interest level based on (a) how she acts towards me (b) how she acts towards others in comparison to me (c) how she reacts to my body language.

Anybody got an idea on how to "test" her...lol...

 

[mactheripper]

Update:

Met up with her again, and set up a "casual outing". At first she had something specific in mind, but then it was like "ah we'll figure something out", so I'm thinking this is good in a way? The fact that it didn't really matter to her where we are going...????

Also, unless it was my paranoia, she was definately more nervous around me then other guys she spoke to. Talking faster, laughing at her own jokes more etc...

Would I be right in thinking that I should be able to gauge her interest level and intentions by our next outing???

She lives quite far away from me so I reckon I should be a bit bolder to determine her feelings instead of wasting my time...good idea???

LOL, I'm learning a lot that's for sure.

 

[NewMan]

Stop worrying and 2nd guessing everything so much.

Enjoy the process.

Have fun.

This is what - your 3rd date? so just have a good time. I think yout getting a little to carried away - not everyone wants to move so fast (asking about your past, job etc) - perhaps she's just having fun and enjoying spending time with you.

Just ride the train and see what happens.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

RIPPER: How old is this girl and how old are you? Sounds like highschool jitters and insecurity.

 

[mactheripper]

LOL, no were both in our early twenties. But you're right, I should just have fun. I just don't want it to be "friend fun"..lol...

Ok, Ok, I'll chill....