What does she mean, what is she trying to say ?

[lifemisspent]

Ok, so Ive been going out on dates with this girl for a few weeks now, we have great chemistry together, it's all good.

One thing Im wondering, whenever we make plans she always says " it's ok if something comes up and you can't make it "

For example, we were scheduled to go out on Tuesday, we were supposed to touch base around 8 Pm to find out what time she was getting off of work, she leaves me a VM at 8 pm cause I could not get to the phone, she says hi it's me Im ok for tonight at 9 pm but if you are out doing something and can't make it , I understand it's ok we can do it another time.

Then today, I confirmed to her this AM that I got reservations at my buddies restaurant even though it's tough over the holidays, she says if you couldnt have gotten reservations I would have understanded and it would have been ok.

I have gotten these kind of comments a few times, is she just trying not to seem desperate ?

Thanks for your help.

 

[csourcelover]

im inexperienced in these areas, but to me it sounds like she has a lack of confidence? sounds like guys have ditched her over many times in the past? how is the tone of her voice on the phone when she says it? try to analyze that.

 

[lifemisspent]

Thanks,

Her tone is fairly stoic, hard to read to be honest. She has a 5 year old child, I think she is self conscience about that. She said to me, I was surprised when you asked me out because you knew I had a child.

 

[csourcelover]

hmmm, she's obviously interested, just seems a little underconfident and shy - a lot of guys probably ran away when they knew she had a child but with you she seems to be shocked. maybe what shes trying to say is.. "I know I have a child.. I understand if you don't want to hang out." Tell her otherwise. Maybe Im wrong tho, rather let a true DJ answer this one.

best of luck to you, i am currently dealing with an extremely shy girl - challenge and a half

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Next time she mentions something like that say something like, "Would you really let me cancel plans we've made to do something else? Because unless it's something really important, I would not accept that behavior from you."

This is basically a shyt test for her, see if she passes it and you'll know.

Umm I just saw the thing about the 5 year old, and my best advice for you is to think seriously about whether you're just taking what you can get, or you really want a relationship with a single mom...

I know I'm young, but there are plenty of childless single women out there that wouldn't need me to provide for both of them or whatever this lady might be thinking about you for the future.

 

[zekko]

I'll offer another possibility. She has a kid to take care off, and she works. She may be tired a lot and not really sure if she feels like going out. This has nothing to do with you, I'm sure she likes you and wants to go out with you. But her body is telling her it would be nice just to relax, so she's willing to let it slide if you can't make it.