what does it mean when she...

[sam32123]

ok my gf has recently given me a "homework" she called it. What it is basically a hand written personality test thingy asking what your favorite books, food, what you hate/like...etc (list of around 20) and she filled her side of answers already and in turn wants me to do it. she never brought up the topic in a convo, just gave it to me one day in an unaddressed envelope
We havent gotten really really close yet though we've been together for sometime and this is the first time i've encountered such a situation. any idea as to any possible not-so obvious intentions and advice for me? i never read too much into it and is simply thinking of filling it in honestly and giving it back to her.

thanks in advance

 

[MotownMack]

Hmm....

Though not immediately threatening, I would be wondering what her demeanor was like when she brought this up. Is it more like a joking, playing around thing-for fun? Or is she giving you a sh1t test, like you have to take this so she can assess you?

You said you've been together for a while, but you're not really close. That's confusing, clarify where you guys are, because that's important in this case. I don't have a clear picture of your relationship.

If you haven't been dating for a while and/or aren't really close, I'd say this is closer to sh1t test, and sounds like one of those things that there's very little chance of anything good coming of it. It's the type of thing I could see a female using to make baseless assumptions for disqualification. If she's acting like this is in any way going to be used to help her determine anything concrete, I would lean towards an Alpha response, and refuse to take it.

 

[sam32123]

thx for the quick response. i said we arent really really close (at least thats how i feel) b/c i'm kinda shy and we are both extremely busy and havent been spending THAT much time together.

 

[MotownMack]

No problem. I am training for a triathlon, and just got back from the gym. I am so exhausted, I can't do anything but sit here and post, lol.

The rule of thumb for me-in the initial phases-is to control the flow of information they get when when it comes to things that will make help them make decision about what type of "relationship material" you may be. That's the theory anyway, I still screw that up sometimes (in fact, I recently did just that). But make them work for that sort of stuff, and what you tell them voluntarily should highlight things that will DHV for you.

My personal experience with this is that when HBs in particular, start to like you, they have a very negative approach to the process- in other words, they'll have an internal conflict, and look for reasons NOT to like you, and they will find some no matter what you do, even if they have no basis in reality. So the key, IMHO, is not to give them any help in this department.

It's sounds like a compliance test, that could only screw up your chances at this point.

 

[MooseGod]

Answer everything completely sarcastically and make a joke out of her stupid little test...what are you guys, in third grade?

 

[Warrior74]

fock her test. throw that ish in the trash. then just never bring it up and if she does tell her your working on it with a smirk. seriously who the fock does she think she is? laugh it off. thats just my inner ass hole talking....

...better yet tell her when she does something good you'll anwser one question. make her work for it.

 

[KontrollerX]

Sounds harmless but on the other hand it also seems like its a demand that you must complete or else.

Do it if you want to and if that is what you decide play it off like oh cool I love these things!

Rather than show your disdain for her stupid test.

Alternatively like the warrior poster said just tell her if you get time you'll do it but then conveniently forget all about having to do it when she asks you about it.

The frustration of never getting her stupid questions answered should be enough for her to leave you alone about it.

 

[IPalindromeI]

She probably got the idea out of Glamour or Cosmo, or some other women's magazine or 'relationship book' she found at the bookstore. Just fill it out and give it to her. No harm done. Unless of course, these fonts of wisdom she got the idea from have a 'grading system' based on your answers. You'd be surprised to see what sort of nonsense can be 'derived' from your answers based on this stuff. Have you asked her where she got the idea from? It could biased greatly depending on the source.

 

[Warrior74]

wwjwd? what would john wanye do?

"What's all this? Now see here, I don't like the way this is lookin..if you have some to ask me, you ask me, see? I'll anwser, if its worth anwsering" *hands list back to her*

 

[Nighthawk]

I don't see the harm. Do it if you like. Back when I was a youngster, before the internet, I'd have girls I'd write to/fuck when they were in town and this sort of stuff is par for the course. Just don't give wussy answers and try to make it funny too.

 

[bugsquish]

...better yet tell her when she does something good you'll anwser one question. make her work for it.

lol perfect

 

[Mr. Me]

Answer with the most expensive, rare books and the most extravagant meals, just in case she's fishing for gift ideas.

just gave it to me one day in an unaddressed envelope

Really? She doesn't know your name????????????????? (J/K)