Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What does it mean based on previous experience?

tallcoolone

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I had a date tonite, very shy girl, at the end, I said "do you want to go out again sometime" she replied "I'd be up for it". Based on everyones past experience is that good or bad ******** language? Does it really mean yes or no?

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wiesman44

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mistake #1: do not ask if they want to go out on a second date while still on the first. Wait a few days, then call her.

Mistake #2: Do not ask ridiculous questions. We do not know how you acted during the date, if there was any chemistry......and so on. By me giving you an answer is just me speculating.

If she is shy like u said, she's not going to tell you no right to your face. So basically, by you asking her then, it did nothing for you. Women would much rather shoot u down on the phone rather than in person. Wait a couple days, then call her.

By u asking this question, you reak of desperation. I used to be like you. I had one date every few months, and I analyzed every little interaction with the girls. Don't do this, you only end up hurting yourself.

Lastly, you said she was a very shy girl. Did you get her to open up at all to you ? B/c if you came to the conclusion she was very shy after your date you probably didnt make her feel comfortable enough. If you did everything you could, and she was still super shy, you have to evaluate if seeing a really shy girl is really worth your time. WIll they be the most fun for you? Do they deserve you ?
 

DeathDealer

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Wiseman is right.

Shy people usually open up to people they are comfortable. This doesn't mean she wasn't comfortable with you - it was probably an awkward situation for her. I hope you're taking her out on action dates to try to get her shyness to come out.
 
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