"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What does gentle mean?

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After my self esteem was boosted by about 250%, I came to 'realize who I was' and became a lot more confident, outgoing, and talkative around people. I also enjoy the process of getting more female friends and using them as a leverage to know more girls. Although people frequently complement me about my good looks, I've never been in a relationship or been exactly successful with girls- comes to show how truly important don juan skills are.
I have a new question here. Several girls who know me better have told me that I need to be more gentle. "Girls like gentle guys," they say. Based on their impression, I'm the type of guy who can accidentally break anything I touch, including the female arm that I take when I get myself a dance partner. They say that I am 'macho', and believe that even if I try to be gentle, I'd still be unable to be that way.
I honestly have trouble comprehending this. I mean, people's told me this a while back and I think I'm changing myself into something a little more...careful, but... I don't know. I'm really confused here. Someone help me out?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What I define as gentle is opening a door for a woman, pull out her cher when you out for diner, walking at the outside of a sidewalk, opening her car door, etc..

But I wouldn't change for what girls say, they only gonna turn you into a wuss..
 
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They say they want gentle guys, but who ends up in bed with them? ;)
What woman say, want, think and do are 4 different things.
 
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Gentle doesn't mean you are a pu$$y. It more runs the line of holding her properly, not moving too fast (smoothness), things like that.

Not the, I'll barely touch your hand and I'll hold you like I don't have any muscles gentle :crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Docs said:
Gentle doesn't mean you are a pu$$y. It more runs the line of holding her properly, not moving too fast (smoothness), things like that.

Not the, I'll barely touch your hand and I'll hold you like I don't have any muscles gentle :crackup:
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seems like that's what theyre talking about? :confused:
i don't understand women anymore. just because someone has some extra pounds of muscle doesnt make him ungentle okay?? goddamnit, i feel like punching a wall... can they be any more vague?
 
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