Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What does gentle mean?

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After my self esteem was boosted by about 250%, I came to 'realize who I was' and became a lot more confident, outgoing, and talkative around people. I also enjoy the process of getting more female friends and using them as a leverage to know more girls. Although people frequently complement me about my good looks, I've never been in a relationship or been exactly successful with girls- comes to show how truly important don juan skills are.
I have a new question here. Several girls who know me better have told me that I need to be more gentle. "Girls like gentle guys," they say. Based on their impression, I'm the type of guy who can accidentally break anything I touch, including the female arm that I take when I get myself a dance partner. They say that I am 'macho', and believe that even if I try to be gentle, I'd still be unable to be that way.
I honestly have trouble comprehending this. I mean, people's told me this a while back and I think I'm changing myself into something a little more...careful, but... I don't know. I'm really confused here. Someone help me out?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What I define as gentle is opening a door for a woman, pull out her cher when you out for diner, walking at the outside of a sidewalk, opening her car door, etc..

But I wouldn't change for what girls say, they only gonna turn you into a wuss..
 

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They say they want gentle guys, but who ends up in bed with them? ;)
What woman say, want, think and do are 4 different things.
 

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Gentle doesn't mean you are a pu$$y. It more runs the line of holding her properly, not moving too fast (smoothness), things like that.

Not the, I'll barely touch your hand and I'll hold you like I don't have any muscles gentle :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Docs said:
Gentle doesn't mean you are a pu$$y. It more runs the line of holding her properly, not moving too fast (smoothness), things like that.

Not the, I'll barely touch your hand and I'll hold you like I don't have any muscles gentle :crackup:
seems like that's what theyre talking about? :confused:
i don't understand women anymore. just because someone has some extra pounds of muscle doesnt make him ungentle okay?? goddamnit, i feel like punching a wall... can they be any more vague?
 
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