"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What does a smile mean?

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Smiling is all part of that body language and subcommunication stuff, but what exactly could a girl smiling at you mean?

Whats going on in their head when they smile at you? Like, today 2 girls that I've never spoken to before smiled at me, one when I took a paper from her and the other when i gave a paper to her...

I realized that a smile is non-verbal, so it counts as an action, not spoken word.

Also the girl seemed to look down when she smiled. Is this trying to say something like, you're hot but I want you to talk to me before I talk to you?
Or it could just be like saying hi, which happened with a differen't girl today, but I actually know her so there isn't attraction.

Bottom line question - What is a girl thinking and feeling when she smiles?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A smile means anything from I want to have massive amounts of sex with you to "wow that guy has a funny face". At a guess when smiling at you when giving/taking papers it is something along the lines of "here you go" or "thanks". You could probably have opened with either of them, but aside from that it means nothing. Stop reading so much into it!
 

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You're right haha.
How can you narrow it down to what the specific body language means though?
 

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No idea! Maybe read a few books on body language? Personally I tend to not look too much into it, at least before she starts touching me etc.
 

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Yeah I think it's more valuable to be able to know the subtler signs of when a girl is interested in you though.

Well.. hmm... the girl behind me who smiles a lot has kicked me lightly in the ass before multiple times haha.
That means nothing sadly :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Definitely take a smile as an IOI if its longer than a second. :)
 

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If she looks down, its a good sign, if she stares and smiles, you probably still have breakfast on your face.
 

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Here's what I've learned about smiles. The duration of a smile is directly proportional to interest level:

- 0.1-0.5 seconds: courtesy
- 0.6-0.8 seconds: she wants to be friends
- 0.9-1.2 seconds: she wants you to kiss her on Tuesday
- 1.3-1.8 seconds: she wants to have oral sex
- 1.9-2.1 seconds: she wants to have vaginal sex
- 2.31 seconds and above: she wants anal sex

No, I didn't miss the time between 2.1 and 2.31 seconds. This is the grey zone. If you get a smile within this range, it could go either way, so please have a stop watch handy and be prepared to PM me.

In my next post, I will move on to the DEGREE of her smile and influence the angle of the corners of her mouth will have on the likelihood of an LTR. Stay tuned.
 

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PhatE1vis said:
Here's what I've learned about smiles. The duration of a smile is directly proportional to interest level:

- 0.1-0.5 seconds: courtesy
- 0.6-0.8 seconds: she wants to be friends
- 0.9-1.2 seconds: she wants you to kiss her on Tuesday
- 1.3-1.8 seconds: she wants to have oral sex
- 1.9-2.1 seconds: she wants to have vaginal sex
- 2.31 seconds and above: she wants anal sex

No, I didn't miss the time between 2.1 and 2.31 seconds. This is the grey zone. If you get a smile within this range, it could go either way, so please have a stop watch handy and be prepared to PM me.

In my next post, I will move on to the DEGREE of her smile and influence the angle of the corners of her mouth will have on the likelihood of an LTR. Stay tuned.
Ouch...someone more cynical than me!

In the end, a smile isnt a bad thing, but I personally dont think that it is something worth reading too much into.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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so you don't know what does smiles means,you have been smilling since 6 years old and you can not ask your old man about it when they say smile.
 

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PhatE1vis said:
Here's what I've learned about smiles. The duration of a smile is directly proportional to interest level:

- 0.1-0.5 seconds: courtesy
- 0.6-0.8 seconds: she wants to be friends
- 0.9-1.2 seconds: she wants you to kiss her on Tuesday
- 1.3-1.8 seconds: she wants to have oral sex
- 1.9-2.1 seconds: she wants to have vaginal sex
- 2.31 seconds and above: she wants anal sex

No, I didn't miss the time between 2.1 and 2.31 seconds. This is the grey zone. If you get a smile within this range, it could go either way, so please have a stop watch handy and be prepared to PM me.

In my next post, I will move on to the DEGREE of her smile and influence the angle of the corners of her mouth will have on the likelihood of an LTR. Stay tuned.
Are you kidding me? A second is really fvckin fast.. it takes like a whole second just to smile haha.
It's interesting though how you point out the duration of the smile could mean different things... but it's probably inaccurate.

This excludes girls you are already friends with, right?
 

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PhatE1vis said:
Here's what I've learned about smiles. The duration of a smile is directly proportional to interest level:

- 0.1-0.5 seconds: courtesy
- 0.6-0.8 seconds: she wants to be friends
- 0.9-1.2 seconds: she wants you to kiss her on Tuesday
- 1.3-1.8 seconds: she wants to have oral sex
- 1.9-2.1 seconds: she wants to have vaginal sex
- 2.31 seconds and above: she wants anal sex

No, I didn't miss the time between 2.1 and 2.31 seconds. This is the grey zone. If you get a smile within this range, it could go either way, so please have a stop watch handy and be prepared to PM me.

In my next post, I will move on to the DEGREE of her smile and influence the angle of the corners of her mouth will have on the likelihood of an LTR. Stay tuned.
that made my day lololol
 
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