"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A cute girl plops down next to you at Starbucks? She had her leg crossed toward me. I looked over and she was looking the other way. I went back to typing on my laptop and I could sense her looking at me then. I look back and she's looking the other way again.

There were other empty seats. Like 5-6 that she could have sat at. Say "hi"? Isn't that weird when you don't even know her? I don't want to use a dumb pickup line either.

I sensed that maybe she sat next to me for a reason. But maybe I'm reading too much into it. What do you think?

I don't get much of a chance to meet girls any where else, so I want to know what to do in these situations.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"You're good..." She stops and looks at you "...but apparently not good enough ;)"

Either make a c&f joke about her glancing at you or say hey and start talking; my above example is more like push/pull because her act of glancing at you is already an IOI. C&f and push/pull are both attraction amplifiers (sparkers as well sometimes.)
Most guys start conversation with fluff, some with opinion, but both ways can lead to rapport.

Rule #1: just because she's good looking doesn't mean she's your type; you need to qualify her by finding out if she's fun and what she's all about. Act like you have high standards.
Trust me, if she's interested it'll work. If not, hey you can't expect every single girl on the planet to be attracted to you. It's no big deal when you consider the big picture: yourself!
 
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devrob said:
A cute girl plops down next to you at Starbucks? She had her leg crossed toward me. I looked over and she was looking the other way. I went back to typing on my laptop and I could sense her looking at me then. I look back and she's looking the other way again.

There were other empty seats. Like 5-6 that she could have sat at. Say "hi"? Isn't that weird when you don't even know her? I don't want to use a dumb pickup line either.

I sensed that maybe she sat next to me for a reason. But maybe I'm reading too much into it. What do you think?

I don't get much of a chance to meet girls any where else, so I want to know what to do in these situations.
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You say," Hey, by all means sit there until Jessica shows up."

She, " What ! Who's she ?"

You, " You don't know who Jessica is? She is kinda famous, and a good friend too .You will like her. "

She, "You're kidding me right ? "

Now you have her absolute attention - what you do with it is down to you .
 
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Say hi when your eyes meet, if you're interested in her then start some small talk. If you are confident, funny etc and you get a decent conversation going she'll probably give you her number.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"hi, I noticed you were staring at me", but of course, i wouldn't even use this line. I would just say watsup. I mean.... who gives a sh!T?
 
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