"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"What do you want?"

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I went to see one "Old love" to pizzeria where she works. As soon as I entered, she spoke to me in upset way "What do you want?" I didn't want to make a scene so I opted for "Just came to order take out pizzas" Still, she knows I wasn't there for pizzas. I want to go there again. What do I say this time?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Looks like she wasn't thrilled to see you

My advice is not to go back. Unless you really do just want the pizza. Move on.

As best I can tell, nothing you can say will change the way she thinks very much.
 

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You're not going to say anything because you're not going there again, buddy!

If you do ever go in there accidentally, make sure there is a nice looking girl with you whom you are giving all your attention. As for the "old love", just pretend you've never met her before and behave that way.

But even that is lame. Better to be seen with that new girl somewhere other than the pizzeria.

In a girl's mind, the most plausible explanation for your appearance, location or behavior, should never be that you have some premeditated plan to enter into her presence.

If you show up at the pizzeria where she works, no matter who you are with, the most plausible explanation why you are there will always be that it's because you are thinking of her. Thus, you shouldn't do that.

You can still create a situation in which you can approach her, but it looks like a chance meeting. But again, create too many of such situations and it looks like you are stalking. Bump into her once or twice in a span of sevearl months, and the most probable explanation is that it's coincidence. Bump into her five times in four weeks, and coincidence is not longer the probable explanation!
 

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Even if he wants the pizza and nothing else, his motive will still be misconstrued in the girl's mind. People can't read your mind. They use all kinds of lazy shortcuts in their reasoning to form a couple of hypotheses about why you are doing what you are doing. Then they pick the most plausible one. If they fancy themselves to be clever, they will keep the second most plausible one in their "back pocket" and exert a slight effort to look for clues in its favor. :)
 

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My 2c...

Originally posted by rick6599
I went to see one "Old love" to pizzeria where she works. As soon as I entered, she spoke to me in upset way "What do you want?" I didn't want to make a scene so I opted for "Just came to order take out pizzas" Still, she knows I wasn't there for pizzas. I want to go there again. What do I say this time?
Her: what do you want?

You: Well, this IS a pizza place, isnt it?

Her: Ya

You: So why did you ask me a question that u already knew the answer to? unless you actually think that i came here because of YOU?

Her: (at a loss of words) ok, so what do u wanna order?

You: I want (what u wanna eat)

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When u get your pizza and are about to leave
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You: And if i DID come here for you, would that be a problem?

At this point you should get the truth from her.. and whatever she sais, u will just need to accept, weather its what u want to hear or not.

What you need to do now:

Go there again in a few weeks ( dont go any time soon, that would come out as being stalker-ish;) ) and then just do something similar to what i mentioned above and see how things go from there..

Goodluck...

Laterz...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Equitas, thanks, that was a good one. To bring another chick around, and even kissing her in front of the main target would still be a bit awkward. I was not direct enough this time. Got to take it easy. Couple of weeks, then being straight.
 
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