What do YOU think?

[TheMinistered]

Well I just got a letter from my girlfriend that went a little bit like this. (Note: I think I'm getting ready to next her and move on to someone new)

I hope you get this when you get home. Theres some stuff id like to say. Well, first, lately we haven't talked as you have probably noticed and its really bothering me. I miss you alot and would give anything to get to talk to you more. It just seems like your not willing to sacrifice that though. and when we talk it always seems like you are zoned out and don't have anything to say which makes it hard on me to talk because im worried why in the hell your not talking to me. And any time there is something that has happened to you you dont seem to want to tell me what has happened and that bothers me too. as your girlfriend i think i should know. well im just concerned and at least would like to know. it just seems like your avoiding talking to me. and it seem almost like we dont have a relationship. and you know i love you so much and i know you love me. it just seems like our lack of of comunication is tearing me apart and our relationship too. i just miss youu and talking to you too. and ive been having a really hard time with life and theres some things i haven't told you and our lack of communication isnt helping me out. i need you. so im not going to call you but if you feel like calling me later after like nine you can. well i love you and ill talk to you hopefully later. ~tara~

And here was my short reply

Ah, that is how you feel? Well, if you can't handle it then hit the lonely road. I have told you, on multiple occasions, that I am busy and I don't have a lot of time. Furthermore, your letter was written as if there was no hope, if so then let go and fall into the dark abyss. I don't have time to play games tara, if you want to be in on this relationship then try listening more and accept the fact that I am busy most of the time. In conclusion, learn to value my time more. I love you.

I held no remorse for her, mainly because I feel like I'm getting ready to next her if she doesn't change dramatically. How do you think I handled it?

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

You fukked up on the I Love You part...

 

[TheMinistered]

'Tis alright... in the end it shouldn't matter too much because I am pretty sure I'm going to next her.

 

[THA REALNESS]

DAMN,your reply was hard as hell .You need to explain more.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Why....?

I don't know why you feel as if being a jerk is going to make things better for you. Do you feel as if being a jerk and hurting her feelings are going to make you feel any better about yourself?

If you are looking to make her want you more, this is not the way to do it. Yes, you should be a challenge, but you shouldn't purposely try and make her feel bad about herself. You could have told her the exact same thing except in a way that would have helped you much more than hurt you.

 

[squirrels]

What's the rest of the story?

Is there a reason you're not talking to her/zoning out around her? If it's just a "being a challenge" tactic, it appears to be the wrong tactic for the situation, or overused, one or the other.