"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What do you think of this?

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Now some time ago I somehow found this concept somewhere( don't remember how). Recently I remembered it and I'd like to see some thoughts upon this:

YOU GAIN THE POWER BECAUSE YOU LOOK LIKE YOU ALREADY HAVE IT

I'm sure you've heard about this stuff: " Fake it till you make it".
I on one level tend to believe it cause basically it refers to acting in a certain way that "is not yourself" at that time, but by being consistent you are able to integrate that thing and make it a part of your real self ( I call Real self - the way you are naturally, when you are not trying to be someone or anything---- you default mode).
Backing up this thing is something I've learned in school (Psychology class) that basically said that being in a state or acting a certain way for some time makes that characteristic a part of your character.
Some examples:

1) You have a real cool friend that you consider being better than you ( you recognize his value) an you like his style or certain things. After a while, if he is part of you close social circle ( you hand out with him often and stuff) you will maybe try to act like him . After a while for some odd reason that friend disappears. After this strange thing happens when you find yourself in a situation, you are on default mode and you just act based on qualities you've gained along the way ( from your friend). Those skills or values or beliefs you were mostly unconscious trying to bring in your own reality when you were with your friend are now part of you. You may think: "this is not me", but Fu** that cause that's not even true. So you accept it.

It's basically you trying to be better even though this process isn't even voluntarily cause that really happened to me and I think you all lived something like this.

That is important with whom you associate.

Anyway, back to our stuff... yea - what do you think about that? I personally think it works and I only say that because it happened for me.
People change.

SO : You literally gain the power because you look like you already have it.

I think this thing is linked to : Fake it till you make it .
A way one may do this without a friend ( anyway that was just an example) is ACT AS IF. Act as if it's true. So if all this is true if you act as if___ ,you will become ____. It could be a way to change that will need one more thing CONSISTENCY.
A similar thing: " If you want to be a _____, act like one". Act as if you already are that person and you will be.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What you're describing is basically the end goal of pickup; the lines and routines are a shortcut to getting you to project an aura of seductiveness that in time becomes a core part of your character. Eventually, you aren't acting ****y anymore, you really ARE ****y; you don't pretend there are a lot of women vying for your attention, there really ARE a lot of women wanting to f*ck you.

I wouldn't say it's "faking." It's more like reconditioning your mind to think like a seducer.
 

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But couldn't this principle be applied in order to integrate in your personality some other qualities like : decisiveness, happiness, taking action .. ? That's a really important question. I need your opinion on this.
 

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I don't know if it does work. I tried faking confidence back in the day. It doesn't really work. You need reference points.

You see, if you just think "I'm confident", that's like a table with no legs. You don't have any reference points to put that belief on. I believe its almost all about experience.
 

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Maybe, but I think that is possible to feel a certain way ( to be integrated in your character/ personality) just because you consistently felt that same way for some time in the past.
Anyway it's vague. I agree with you on the fact that experience is the one that matters the most and that changes you . You have to take consistent action
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah, basically, you can't just "be confident." You have to know what characteristics make a person confident, you learn to do what confident people do, and you have to consistently do them enough that you aren't just thinking confidently, you're acting confidently. As I said, eventually it becomes natural and intuitive. You don't think twice before running a routine or snapping back with a neg, it just flows. When you start out, you have to stop to analyze your actions. "What did she mean when she said this?" "What is the best way to handle this hoop?" "When should I initiate kino?" etc. This is what field reports are for; it lets you playback and analyze your sticking points. But after a while, you're analyzing, responding, and interacting all in the blink of an eye. And like NDJ said, you can only reach that point through experience. You can read the physics and the theory behind boxing all you want; you're still not going to know how to fight unless you actually step in the ring a couple times.
 
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