"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The reason why you always hear talk about the rationalization hamster is because women decide on something (or take an action) then rationalize, the rationalization aspect being the hamster that spins furiously to rationalize something.

If a women finds you hot, rich enough, or alpha enough, then most actions you take will be seen as favorable. You have a 4 inch ****? She'll love you and say its the biggest she's had. You are poor? She'll love you for the man you are. You say something halfway intelligent? You are the smartest person she's ever known.

Then if don't have these so called "primary" qualities, if you aren't sexual enough, if you are too beta, if you didn't tickle her fancy somehow, if you can't dominate her, pass her sh!t tests, then all goes to sh!t. You could have a 9 inch **** and she will say its too small. You could have muscles and a hot body and she will say you are compensating. You could be nice she could call you weak. You can be an asshvle and she won't fvck you cause you're an asshvle.

They already like the man in the article you posted for some reason or another (he is handsome, he has fame etc. etc.) and then they can attribute bullsh!t qualities like he is open and honest, vulnerable blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah..

It's like a woman telling you she like's humor and confidence (granted they can increase your chances) but if she already finds a man who has turned her on sexually it won't matter.

You can be the funniest guy in the world and if not sexual with her, you are just a jester. You can be sensitive as fvck but you'd only be an emotional tampon if you weren't fvcking her first. You can have all the confidence in the world, but if you don't use that confidence to advance sexually, then it doesn't matter.

All of the traits in that list do not matter unless the guy can socialize sexually with a woman. They are absolutely secondary to being sexual.
 

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TonyBaloney said:
Thankyou Eternal Water, for bringing some culture to SS, even though it seems to be rather lost on some people...
Culture? :crackup:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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