"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What do you think of this Facebook move?

Single_Sucks

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Hiya,
I just spotted on facebook a very sweet young thing. She's single, 3 years younger, shorter than me (i am short), in the same small town, cute. She seems to be about the same hotness as girls I've had success with in the past.

Now normally I never go to the internet for girls but this one I couldn't resist. Her status said that she wants cheering up so I sent her a short message containing just this short joke...

"Ok a guy walks into a bar with a duck on his head and the bartender says `What'll it be Mac?` And the duck says yeah can you get this guy off my butt?"

Thats all, no introduction or anything, I figure taht she can always click thorugh to my profile anyway. The joke is dumb I know. lol.

Whats the verdict, smooth or creepy? Pointless or potential?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Rough and pointless, if you had met her a few times, got her # and then added her on FB, that would have been better. I assume she doesn't know you and will think you are a goofball for sending such a lame joke. But don't take my word for it, maybe something will happen, updates will be needed I want to see how this turns out.
 

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if you are good looking, it will be smooth.
if you are below average looking, it will be creepy.
 

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if you are good looking, it will be smooth.
if you are below average looking, it will be creepy.
and that, folks, is the truth about women

I'd say i'm average looking, but only 5'6. She's short too so it could go either way. I will let you know.
 
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Single_Sucks said:
and that, folks, is the truth about women

I'd say i'm average looking, but only 5'6. She's short too so it could go either way. I will let you know.
That's not the truth about women at all, women are actually (on average) less superficial than us men (believe it or not?). The problem is not your appearance, but your attitude. You don't have a successful life with a bad attitude. Height is a priority for women, but it has never stopped me attracting taller women or shorter women. Your personality and how you portray yourself are more important.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok ok, very true, but BACK to the subject

I got a reply !! :rockon:
goes like this:

"well now cheesy as that is it has certainly put a smile on my face...always have been a sucker for bad jokes though! XxX"

now i'm not saying that this is anything major (it isn't) but it certainly is nice

Updates to come amigos
 

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Update

:rockon: Rock on!

I messaged her again, this time with 5 line of conversation.

She messaged back with 8 lines! and requested me as a friend ! That I beleive is a significant
level of initial interest, considering that I really havnt done that much yet.

:rockon:
I'm super stoked at the moment, I accepted the friend request tonight but I'm gonna give it a couple of days until I reply to the message ( so that my excitement wears off a bit and I stop hopping around like a frog on acid, lol).
 

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Wow. That's pretty impressive dude. Generally,I frown on meeting dates on the internet,but hey,you can't argue with success. Only thing is you don't want to spend too much time communicating via Facebook/Myspace because if you do,she'll get too comfortable talking to over the internet and the thought of actually meeting you in person will might make her uncomfortable.
Other than that,good job man.
 

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Yeah, she's a friend-of-a-friend actually.

I'm hoping that my friend might introduce us, or arrange a social gathering, offline. So I may not need to ask for a date at all.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Buck Rogers said:
Dont use facebook to pick up chicks you have never met.
I agree, but on this occassion he seems to have had a minimal form of success, he just needs to make sure he takes from it his computer to a coffee house A.S.A.P.

Single_Sucks, don't wory about a friend introducing you, go and introduce yourself, strike up coversation, flirt, tease do what ever you need to, ask her out, get her digits and get the ball rolling.
 

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Single_Sucks, don't wory about a friend introducing you, go and introduce yourself, strike up coversation, flirt, tease do what ever you need to, ask her out, get her digits and get the ball rolling.
So you guys all seem to be saying to go for it all guns blazing. A little surprised, I don't want to come across as needy or rushing.

Tell you what, I will put a good dosage of flirting into my next message and see how favourably she responds to that. Then I will consider asking for a meet up.

Lovin' the input though guys.
 

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DUDE. She is open now. Make a cold read. Chicks love that sh1t.

"You know... I am not a psychic... but I really have an intuition about you..."

let her ask what

"I dont know.. I might tell u something you didnt know about yourself.. I don't think u wanna know that much"

let her beg

"Ok.. I feel like you're someone who... <insert cold read>"
 

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"You know... I am not a psychic... but I really have an intuition about you..."

let her ask what

"I dont know.. I might tell u something you didnt know about yourself.. I don't think u wanna know that much"

let her beg

"Ok.. I feel like you're someone who... <insert cold read>"
I like your point, but, lol, you americans come up with some corny s**t. Too many sitcoms.

Thats a big assumption about your nationality there, but anyway I will translate this into a more diligent British version.

You guys sure are boosting my confidence levels though! Thanks!
 
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Single_Sucks said:
So you guys all seem to be saying to go for it all guns blazing. A little surprised, I don't want to come across as needy or rushing.

Tell you what, I will put a good dosage of flirting into my next message and see how favourably she responds to that. Then I will consider asking for a meet up.

Lovin' the input though guys.
Yes, do go for it all guns blazing, there is no time like the present. People and situations change over time, so it is best to strike while the iron is hot.

Do whatever you need to mate, just as long as you get the desired results.

Let us know how it goes. :up:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You know guys, I myself am very sceptical about online game. For this reason i'm gonna keep you lot in the loop as much as possible too. This does seem to be going well though.

I messaged her back with some flirtation included, nothing brash, but if I get yet another positive reading...the next one will be asking if she is free on the weekend.

p.s. she is actually asking questions at me, thus actively helping to carry the conversation. I havn't used one question mark YET. A demonstation that high interest level is really so fundamental.
 
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She seems interested. Just remember that this interest can diminish if you dally about too long. Go in for the kill with the next message. Ask her for her phone number, ring her and make plans.
 

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You certainly look to be overanalyzing.
WOW SHE SENT BACK 8 LINES EVEN THOUGH I ONLY SENT HER 5 OMGWTFBBQ!!!
 

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You certainly look to be overanalyzing.
I'm just reading the initial signs. I just happen to be reporting in extreme detail at the moment, its a bit of fun, I'll relax on that soon enough.

Well she logged on today but didn't reply to my latest message yet.
To be honest until she does reply it would be foolery to think she was interested. She either is or she isn't and if she is then she WILL reply. I'm gonna wait it out.
 
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