"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do you think of flirting without making a move

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I´m going to talkt about LTR´S although I think this could be applied to casual dating/sex.
It is known that many relationships start with persistance from guys, and the result is that many times women start getting affection, for you not attraction. Statitics say that today most relationships are ended up by women, so it seems to me that who wants first has the least power, normally are the guys.

What do you think of just being flirty,CF with lots of women, putting them jealous of each other and waiting them to come to you? I´m not advocating total passive behaviour.. You should be out there meeting new women through friends every weekend etc...
When a girl likes you is crystal clear you don´t need to come to a forum to know, and the relationship will be probably better for you since you are in control... And you avoid rejection.
In fact just being a challenge should get you a lot of women,I know a guy who turned gay recently and it´s ridiculous the number of women he has chasing him now.... while straight no one would even look.

It´s not about being afraid to make a move,though has the advantadge of avoiding rejection, this is basicly what women do and they have the power now... Of course when she is completly crazy about you, you can go and kisser... The point is, if you are not sure if she likes you, she probably doesn´t, so flirt and flirt some more until she jumps to you or things becoming crystal clear...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JdelaSilviera said:
I´m going to talkt about LTR´S although I think this could be applied to casual dating/sex.
It is known that many relationships start with persistance from guys, and the result is that many times women start getting affection, for you not attraction. Statitics say that today most relationships are ended up by women, so it seems to me that who wants first has the least power, normally are the guys.

What do you think of just being flirty,CF with lots of women, putting them jealous of each other and waiting them to come to you? I´m not advocating total passive behaviour.. You should be out there meeting new women through friends every weekend etc...
When a girl likes you is crystal clear you don´t need to come to a forum to know, and the relationship will be probably better for you since you are in control... And you avoid rejection.
In fact just being a challenge should get you a lot of women,I know a guy who turned gay recently and it´s ridiculous the number of women he has chasing him now.... while straight no one would even look.

It´s not about being afraid to make a move,though has the advantadge of avoiding rejection, this is basicly what women do and they have the power now... Of course when she is completly crazy about you, you can go and kisser... The point is, if you are not sure if she likes you, she probably doesn´t, so flirt and flirt some more until she jumps to you or things becoming crystal clear...

Many relationships where the girl just exploits the boy starts with persistance from guys... just to correct it.

Relationships where they really love each other starts with the girl being crazy for the guy.

Women do the chosing ...not because they are fvckin smart or something. They can only have one baby in a year and they are lost without a reliable father. ...you can choose to attract them by being sexual and beeng a man...
or choose whether you "accept" the love or signs of interest of that girl ...but in the end they do the choosing. You even know it instinctively... or you knew it once ...before you started to watch the telly:D
(im not saying that when you are at a club you cant grab her head and kiss her. but that way she still chooses to kiss back cause you had the balls to do that)


"What do you think of just being flirty,CF with lots of women, putting them jealous of each other and waiting them to come to you?"
...i think who said this is a girl deep inside.


"You should be out there meeting new women through friends every weekend etc..."
...yes. and also make new friends. thats a right thing to do.
 

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San Jose California said:
This is what I do.
Thanks pal. I´m starting to think the answer is this... You never see jerks pursuing, so why should you. Again this doesn´t mean passive behaviour.
 
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