What do you think is Wrong With You?

[Aaron the Great]

Here's a list I made of bad habits of my past which I'm proud to say no longer haunt me. Do the same for yourself.

Biting my fingernails - I picked this up when I was 8 or so, and it kept going for about 10 years.

Cracking my joints - Fingers, back, neck, toes, you name it.

Cursing - Yeah this is a work in progress, but there's no reason for it. Got to cut this **** out. oops

My walk - As long as I can remember I was uncomfortable with the way I walked. In high school I always moped around with my hands in my pockets because it was easier to deal with that way. I always looked at the ground and quickly avoided eye-contact. Thinking back further, I remember getting hardons all the time walking the halls in middleschool.

My physique - Nobody ever told me skin and bones was unattractive, or maybe they did and it just never registered. People have a subconscious disrespect for overly-skinny guys. If you think you're hot stuff as a toothpick, you can't even imagine what you're capable of with a real physique. Read Pook's skinnyguy article, the transformation is no joke.

** The above changes are all insignificant compared to what's next.

Arrogance/Vanity - God I swear this is the main lesson I'm here to figure out, and it is a challenging one. As my life improves, as I see myself as more and more beautiful, as wonderful people come into my life seemingly out of thin air, it poses a great challenge to not get big headed about it. This is a work in progress.

Selfishness - I always used to have trouble sharing, I was caught up in material BS and that is no way to live. Now when one is in need, friend of stranger, I do what I can, I give what I can. I take more pleasure from brightening the lives around me than I ever could from the material things I may use to do so.

Addiction - Man is in constant temptation. Everything we do to feel good in the moment will only leave us feeling worse in the next moment. Yes drugs and alcohol are obvious, but what about the more subtle things we look over? In fact all the things I've listed on this page are addictions.

Women - I should be more specific. I spent a lot of time caring about sex with hot girls, but for what? ALL for the ego. It was all about insecurity of how others saw me. Now I know the woman for me, while beautiful no doubt, must bring much more to the table if she wants to hold my interest. The most important things I look for in a woman are a shared life purpose with myself (spiritual beliefs, yada yada) and the desire to help me grow and grow with me. Women are not just a tool to get you off, thats what your hand is for.

Fear of others judging my flaws - My younger self would never have been comfortable laying all this out for people to judge. These are things I was ashamed of for far too long.

NEVER accept who you are as your best or you limit the LIMITLESS potential of your true Inner Self. Don't make excuses why you can't change. I wasted a lot of time making excuses, caught up in all of the above.

This is my list and it's always changing. Review it sure, but it's only an example. Make your own list and APPLY it to you life! Anything you think you could be doing better, identify it and then take the steps to overcome it. You are a diamond in the rough.

 

[Aaron the Great]

I forgot shyness! This is obviously a HUGE problem for ALL of you, or you wouldn't have any trouble talking to women. I used to think I was shy and that was just how things were. NOPE!

On a college campus you see hundreds of people everyday, and I look every one of them in the eyes and smile. There is no segregation here. No judgement on looks or gender or age. ANYBODY who comes into my line of sight will get a smile. If they have the self esteem to look back, I'll be sure to say hi. I will strike up a convo with the 55 yo woman working the cash register when I get lunch, or the 35 yo garbage man, or the campus police, or the obviously depressed and overweight guy/girl, or even that sexy young brunette who catches my eye.

I can brighten anyones day with a smile, so I do. Shyness is a phaze, so dont worry. You do have to take the steps to overcome it thgouh! Dont just wait for it to happen magically.

 

[whistler]

Beautiful post, man.

 

[Aaron the Great]

I just went to take a piss and remember the MOST embarassing flaw I've overcome.

SHY BLADDER! OH GOD that sucked! As a kid I never thought twice of dropping my pants and wipping it out, but somewhere in my teens I developed a complex that I couldnt piss in public, or in any situation where someone else was around.

A lot of other people have this problem, don't feel bad. You'll get over it when you make it a GOAL

 

[MightyMate]

The thing wrong with me is that i cant get to level 6 at this game:
http://www.winterrowd.com/maze.swf

I also always chase better chicks. I got girl, i see better, i chase her. I got rich and beautiful girl i seek for girl whos as rich and beautiful but more famous etc.
I date lots of models and stuff.

 

[dice]

Past:

> Confidence: When I no longer come to this site whenever that is, I will always look back and know that, if it does nothing else for me in my life, it gave me my confidence and self-esteem. I always thought of myself as different, unable to relate to people because I was nothing. I no longer struggle with this. The trick is to realize that I am not superior either, inferiority and superiority are opposite sides to the same coin when in reality you are just you.

> Immaturity: I used to do ANYTHING to get people to like me, including crazy **** they would dare me to do. The good thing is that growing up doing crazy **** has conditioned me to not give a **** so much today what people think.

> Body Language: Again, i owe this site for teaching me the importance of body language. The rest I learned by watching body language masters, such as brad pitt, kobe bryant, and people I know in real life.

Current:

I feel that I have very few flaws, but the ones that I have are so fatal that I haven't had a girlfriend in awhile and am still a virgin.

> Inhibition: I am constantly in a struggle to find what to say. This is my major flaw and is the cause of my other flaws. My life has almost began to revolve around solving this one mental block that I have b/c I know I have the potential for greatness. I feel like I don't know what to say and when I do say something I'm just talking for the sake of talking, like.. isn't this what people do.. I've been to many parties where I just end up sitting there quiet as a tree because I feel like there is nothing that I can contribute of value.

> Self judgement: See above

> Fear: I keep running from something that I want more than anything. I have no problem attracting girls. I am good looking and tall and I feel like I have every ingrediant to become a great DJ. Good job, my own place, nice car, drive to be the best. However, SOMETHING keeps holding me back. I swear to god when I find out exactly what that something is, I am going to MURDER IT and never look back.

It's like I'm a blind dog on a leash.. SOMETHING is holding me back from being free but I can't see what it is.

 

[The Living Legend]

Originally posted by MightyMate
The thing wrong with me is that i cant get to level 6 at this game:
http://www.winterrowd.com/maze.swf

Ahh, I hate you and these stupid things! adsfsdfasfdlkjsas;ljsf!

 

[MightyMate]

 

[ADifferentKindofDJ]

You ass!!! Mighty Mate!!! I hate those games!!!! lol

 

[MightyMate]

You didnt make level 6 ? Its not an easy game!

 

[James Bondage]

Whoa, what's with the hideous face when you f*** up on level 3?!

 

[James Bondage]

OK, OK... so its a wind-up... I feel like a tit now..

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

Oh, lots.

I don't stand up for myself when insulted.

I'm boring. (lack of life experience)

I have very little free time, or disposable income.

I'm very nebby at times (interrupting convos, talking too fast, repeating things two or three times....UGH!!!)

I have a nasty habit of putting my foot in my mouth, usually when attempting to be ****y/funny. (corollary: if I'm afraid of saying something stupid I'll clam up)

I try to impress women, not attract them.

Due to my lack of sexual experience, I'm afraid of intimacy and scared I wouldn't know how to please a woman.



Hehe, I actually laughed out loud when I typed this.

 

[OfficeSpace]

Great post man.. you've inspired me to go to school on Monday and try to brighten the lives of people around me!

 

[organizedconfusion]

i like these posts, it makes us really take an honest look at ourselves..
here are my 'flaws'-
Anger- i hold on to anger and i use it on people, i project it and i have the revenge mentality..one day..i am trying to get rid of my $hit list as we speak..ever seen kill bill? remeber the list?...

over-exhinitionist we have inhibition and we have over-exihibitionist,
i tend to really let myself go in terms of the body langauage department and it's hard to keep it on taps.I feel as if i send out signals of sexual attraction to everyone i feel as if i am attracted to..and this dosen't just limit itself to sexual attractions..it includes EVERYONE ,male and female and i believe that it leaves me in a open vulnerablity to people- so i conciously feel as if i need to 'close myself up' sometimes when i public..don't want to sub-conciously attract gay perverts or anything! i have a very open body language, that sometimes i think invites the wrong kind of attention, have you ever seen a really sexually suggestive girl and you could tell she was a firecracker by the way she moved? but you could also tell that she wasn't quite confident in her sexual powers or abilities just quite yet?..no , i don't move like a hot chick, i have the same type of open sexual demeanor and postures but from a male side..


dream girl fantasies i have this fantasy where i meet this one girl and she loves me no matter what ,my flaws,my imperfections -everything.The only problem is- in reality- i treat these girls that fit this mold like somekind of princess and i treat her differently then all the rest..leaving me wide open for hurt.I idealize the girls i 'think' might be good for me, but i only see her good qualities and not her bad ones and i don't even pay attention if we click well
or not...they end up being totally opposite then what i imagined and we don't even freakin' click! dang it!

asserting my boundaries without becoming aggitated or mean about it
i have trouble telling people whats wrong without being arguemenative and i tended to take things personaly,when it wasn't. i bottle it up and then explode on people,a little mishap turns into a big one.i use physical force as a last resort,but by then it's too over the top...

i keep my distance from people i want all the good things for me and only me, the girls, the cars, the money- i'd rather be envied then praised as a good friend.the outsider with all the goodies, the untouchable, the powerfull..no one really knows me but they know i have what they want and it drives them crazy..i particulary hold this frame of mind to all of the people that has ever put me down in the past, in a way i thank them.If they never knocked me down soo hard, i never would've built up myself to be soo strong the second time around.I see them suffering, on drugs, in jail,getting shot and i laugh out of amusement... i fantasize their deaths and feel a sense of happieness that overwhelms me inside.. death to all my enemies.. i gave my friends everything and was trampeld on in return, they respect violence -so i gave it right back when they mistook my kindness for weakness.


power hungry I took up psychology so i could control people by instantly knowing their motivations and reading into their actions and communications,so i had the upper hand and manipulate them.

fear of woman..yup, i still fear girls...nuff said.of being overwhelmed emotionaly,of being vulnerable to being hurt,not good enough..this is concerning relationships, not the run of the mill bull$hit girlfriend.

 

[ReTiCuLeX]

omfg, I just jumped out of my chair. I almost got to lvl 4, till the exorcist attacked me.