What do you think is going on with this guy?

[MatureDJ]

I Don’t Understand How Other Men Pull Off a Certain “Steamy” Sex Trick

Is there any way to keep things as warm as they should be?

slate.com

I have started dating again after a long time off because of the pandemic, and I am mainly using dating apps. I recently matched with a woman and I had an attraction and we started communicating. Our first date went well, and we have gone on four dates in the space of a week. Things seem to be going well. The issue, and this is 100 percent on me, is that the pictures she had on the dating app were old pictures, and she has gained a considerable amount of weight. When we first met, it did not seem to bother me, but recently, I’ve started having these thoughts about the perception of others. Obviously, there is an attraction there or I would have not asked her out and continued to see her. But the weight thing continues to bother me. Please help me get out of my head and be at peace with seeing someone with who I get along and connect with and want to see where things go.

my opinion: This guy is a frustrated chump, and so the natural inclination to observe reality and behave accordingly is overwhelmed by the desire to cling onto the false idea that an attractive woman is interested in him. Of course, eventually the observable reality does kick in. Now he is trying to convince himself that he likes her because of her personality ("seeing someone with who [sic] I get along with"), but deep down he knows she is a fat chick, and thus has a natural repulsion to her.

I think we've all been there at one time or another.

 

[Robert28]

4 dates in a week?! With a girl you just met on a dating app? I’ve simped, I’ve simped bad, I’ve done stuff that would guys on here cringe in pain. But even I ain’t going on 4 dates in a week with a girl I just met.

 

[Mike32ct]

He might actually like this chick somewhat but his ego is already bruised because he knows he can’t “show her off.”