What do you think I should do?

[LinkinParkROX]

So this girl I've been interested in, is kind of attached to her ex. She'd practically die for him, which is pretty much expected because he's her first so called true love, and the guy she lost her virginity to also. Regardless, we had one date, which was according to both of us, "one of the best days ever. " She hasn't given me many IOIs though, but there's definitely a little bit of attraction there. I've been her rock as well - I know it's risky, but I figured what the hell. She's been having some problems lately.

I had a "I don't really give a fuck" attitude. I've never really been available to contact anyway. I thought about nexting her, and almost did. Keyword, almost. She just texted me asking to call her up because she wanted to talk about some of her problems, and asked me out so we could talk freely. Not really sure, have I been friendzoned? Will I be? What can I do to avoid it? Should I just fuck it and next her already? I'm not really afraid to make mistakes because I'll end up learning from them and improving myself anyhoo, but some direction would be awesome.

 

[Conquer]

first thing you should do: stop listening to linkin park (LOL)....seriously

 

[Stblack]

first thing you should do: stop listening to linkin park (LOL)....seriously

Hahaha agreed.

But... why does it matter what we think you should do? You're really going to listen to a bunch of random guys on the internet?

Just do whatever. Go out with her. If it doesn't work, then too bad.

 

[eaglez1177]

Woah woah dont be hatin on LP! Their new crap sucks but there old stuff will sh*t on any album released today.

And you might be her emotional tampon, so watch out. And she didnt officially ask you out, she just asked to hang out with you so you guys could TALK about HER PROBLEMS

 

[Conquer]

Odds are if you are spending more than 75% of the time you are together talking about her problems then you are her b1tch. Read the DJ bible please. If you want to began a romantic relationship with a women you don't start it by talking bout her problems 24/7. You should care bout her problems until you guys are really deep into a relationship, plus that is what her girlfriends are for. So get real, ditch this girl go out there and talk to new girls.

My verdict: ditch the drama and non-sexual ****. Your being way too needy man, interaction between man and women should be fun. Your just feeding her attention needs.

and yes linkin park sucks and if you ever want to have a real relationship witha woman you will need to listen to better music, so that when she asks you what you listen to you dont sound like a 13 year old wigger.

 

[eaglez1177]

Odds are if you are spending more than 75% of the time you are together talking about her problems then you are her b1tch. Read the DJ bible please. If you want to began a romantic relationship with a women you don't start it by talking bout her problems 24/7. You should care bout her problems until you guys are really deep into a relationship, plus that is what her girlfriends are for. So get real, ditch this girl go out there and talk to new girls.

My verdict: ditch the drama and non-sexual ****. Your being way too needy man, interaction between man and women should be fun. Your just feeding her attention needs.

and yes linkin park sucks and if you ever want to have a real relationship witha woman you will need to listen to better music, so that when she asks you what you listen to you dont sound like a 13 year old wigger.

13 year old wigger? lets hear what music YOU listen to, since you think wiggers listen to one of the most innovative and creative bands of all time. oh but wait, you probably just listen to all the mainstream sh*t on z100 cuz its "cool" and you wanna be like everyone else.

 

[Analyzeit]

Wigger's listen to linkin park WTF??? Wigger's think there gangsta you idiot lol they listen to gangster rap music lol geeze, your the ones that need to grow up talking bout music, it opinion! and over here that new one New Divide?? is popular (I hate it) So back off him, anyway help the guy out, listening to linkin park out gonna make him less of a dj.

Fact is this girl is still attached to her ex boyfriend i'm guessing most of her problems are about her ex boyfriend?? What you need to do is make a move but how you meant to do that if she's talking about her ex boyfriend and her problems?? Look don't next her yet, trust me this website says practice practice practice, and they don't mean just approaching .

Keep trying (unless you got something better to do) but when you with her don't talk about her problems, make her laugh and have a good time. Then try make a move.

If rejected : You Got Freindzoned.

If accepted : Don't get attached and have sex, simple.

You now know, hope i helped

P.s: And Conquer me and eagles still waiting to hear what you listen to??

 

[jeffthechef]

i haven't listend to linkin park lately..but i loved their old stuff

as for your problem...like analyze said...continue to game other girls while you work this one

you should take her out...listen to her problems for a LITTLE bit...don't try and fix the prbolem...i hear this all the time on ss...don't fix her problems dont offer solutions...just listen and tell her you understand...be understanding, not the therapist...but dont listen for too long...try and move the subject on a tangent from something she mentions...dont do it randomly, cause then she'll feel disrespected...but i'm sure you know what i mean...subtly change the subject...then make the rest of the time fun/happy/exciting...leave her feeling good

 

[LinkinParkROX]

Fact is this girl is still attached to her ex boyfriend i'm guessing most of her problems are about her ex boyfriend?? What you need to do is make a move but how you meant to do that if she's talking about her ex boyfriend and her problems??

I thought of this already. Simply tell her she needs to get over him, and then kiss her right after that. If the odds are in my favor, she'll kiss me back as a way of getting over him and it'll grow into something more later. If not, she'll push me away. My reaction will be "Yeah go have sex with him. That's all he needs you for anyway. " and walk away. Either way, nothing to lose.

 

[(JJ)]

I thought of this already. Simply tell her she needs to get over him, and then kiss her right after that. If the odds are in my favor, she'll kiss me back as a way of getting over him and it'll grow into something more later. If not, she'll push me away. My reaction will be "Yeah go have sex with him. That's all he needs you for anyway. " and walk away. Either way, nothing to lose.

lol everything's good except your response. leave with dignity. no reason to unnecessarily burn a bridge.

 

[LinkinParkROX]

Leave with dignity? How?

 

[Analyzeit]

When you say "Yeah go have sex with him. That's all he needs you for anyway. " It looks like you've having a little B1tch fit, and then you also just let him win.

To leave with dignity you need to make it look like it's her loss that she just did that. Even though there really is no point you want to do this, and she'll probably come crawling back.

I wouldn't say it straight away what you say either, there's like a 80% chance she's going to give you the friend-zone speech.

Just talk a litle leave like you normally would, no reason to go over the top or anything. There's actually no points. There is actually nothing you can just say without looking like an idiot after a move like that. But you won't actually look like an idiot, maybe to other people but not her, just you but you know that your not.

Go ahead try it see what happens

good luck